Dont get attached

[Mebad2018]

I seldom come here to begin or get into discussions . I restrict it to the occasional review.

When I first got into this, I found myself sometimes on occasion, getting attached to one of the ladies. I have had fwb and sugar baby arrangements in the past. Some of these ladies are very sweet to us. I hear the sadness here when they leave without a trace. I have learned not to get attached because in the end, you have to realize that to most of them, we are just a credit card with a set of balls. If we go, they do not contact us asking where we are or how we are. Like you, I have a contact list, and at times, I delete numbers that no longer exist.
When Josi was here, she made her money and left . I got the feeling this left a mark on some of you. I miss her too. When they block, you don't take it personally; it was just business. Best is to enjoy the time you have, but keep in mind that we are paying for this; it isn't real . Even my fwb and my sbb. It wasn't real. Look at it this way tomorrow is another day. Massage maestro said this a few years ago. That you should never stop looking for real and meaningful relationships. I hope this helps you.

 

[Thickandsweet]

I seldom come here to begin or get into discussions . I restrict it to the occasional review.

When I first got into this, I found myself sometimes on occasion, getting attached to one of the ladies. I have had fwb and sugar baby arrangements in the past. Some of these ladies are very sweet to us. I hear the sadness here when they leave without a trace. I have learned not to get attached because in the end, you have to realize that to most of them, we are just a credit card with a set of balls. If we go, they do not contact us asking where we are or how we are. Like you, I have a contact list, and at times, I delete numbers that no longer exist.
When Josi was here, she made her money and left . I got the feeling this left a mark on some of you. I miss her too. When they block, you don't take it personally; it was just business. Best is to enjoy the time you have, but keep in mind that we are paying for this; it isn't real . Even my fwb and my sbb. It wasn't real. Look at it this way tomorrow is another day. Massage maestro said this a few years ago. That you should never stop looking for real and meaningful relationships. I hope this helps you.

Sage words. Many of us have got caught in the "paid affection" trap.

Be careful out there!

 

[Deleted member 72001]

Wait!……aren’t we all in the “paid affection trap”??
I mean, 98% of us are this forum to find a decent place to “pay for affection”! LOL

Anyone stating that are here to find a “good legit massages” are up to their eyeballs.

 

[superdick]

DON'T GET ATTACHED ! = CHAPTER IN THE PENIS DIALOGUES

BEEN THERE....DONE THAT........WORDS TO LIVE BY

 

[Albertaman]

Wait!……aren’t we all in the “paid affection trap”??
I mean, 98% of us are this forum to find a decent place to “pay for affection”! LOL

Anyone stating that are here to find a “good legit massages” are up to their eyeballs.

Massage Rook, I like your posts. But read MeBad's post.. Don't GeT Attached! The experiences are purchased. And, btw, you are on Massage Planet, not an Escort board. So many of us truly enjoy MASSAGE. Real massages included . OP is being helpful, that's all. Especially now with post covid recovery period. Many providers are hungry and are vying for revenue, and that includes tricks of emotional entanglements. And larger money grabs from more vulnerable pooners who have some wealth. It's timely advice.

My additional advice..."The greatest Freedom in this hobby space is exercised when one day you drop a provider 100%, and move your generosity to someone else, and never text again.. not even once". You show that you respect yourself. Cheers


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[Deleted member 91023]

I agree that you can't get attached but it can be hard not too. I pride my self on being a great client to these ladies cause I know I'll get much better service in return. Like a lot of you I was very disappointed to see Josi go. I had built a great rapport with her and I really felt like I was a top client for her. I treated her like the princess she was and I received King service in return. I'm sure she had a good reason to leave the business, it's not an easy life. I don't begrudge her for leaving abruptly. I just hope she's ok with what she's doing now. Anyway, I'm not really trying to make a point, I just saw Josi referenced in this post and got somewhat sentimental. I haven't found a SP to replace her but when I do I'll be sure to post a review.

 

[Cabinmon]

DONT get Attatched.they’re lovely and sweet but are just in it for the Money. Your feelings will get hurt if you do. DONT

 

[Deleted member 72001]

Massage Rook, I like your posts. But read MeBad's post.. Don't GeT Attached! The experiences are purchased. And, btw, you are on Massage Planet, not an Escort board. So many of us truly enjoy MASSAGE. Real massages included . OP is being helpful, that's all. Especially now with post covid recovery period. Many providers are hungry and are vying for revenue, and that includes tricks of emotional entanglements. And larger money grabs from more vulnerable pooners who have some wealth. It's timely advice.

My additional advice..."The greatest Freedom in this hobby space is exercised when one day you drop a provider 100%, and move your generosity to someone else, and never text again.. not even once". You show that you respect yourself. Cheers


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I think sometimes my jokes work better in my head then they do coming out of my face. If someone took offence, ZERO disrespect meant.

I might have an advantage in the ‘never getting attached’ racket, as I am not exactly single while participating in this hobby.
I never go in to a massage being available in the first place. Don’t get me wrong, I can definitely see the appeal, if I was single the pull would be strong.
But I also don’t think of myself as a pure money grab for the ladies either. As mentioned in other posts, I enjoy my time with the girls a whole bunch more when I don’t think my tip is only making a monthly Benz payment.
Attitude in = pleasure out.
To those who have had their heart string tied in knots? You have my deepest sympathy.

If you want a fool proof way of never gettin taken for large chunks of money, and getting your heart ripped out? Take up golf!!!! After it takes all your money, and rips your heart out 14/18 times a game, you won’t have any money left to loose to the ladies.

Your welcome.

 

[Albertaman]

No worries, and would never see your posts as being disrespectful. You are good. But you will be surprised at how the attached hobbyists are the ones most susceptible to being taken advantage of. They give up common sense and put up with disrespect and disdain from some of their so called "therapists". So as loyal clients, instead of getting top notch attentive service, they put up with sub par services while their "therapist" focuses on their new customers of the week. As I have suggested before, being a real man means walking away. No further communication, texts or calls. Believe me, there are many providers waiting to find another great loyal client.



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[Qster]

Easier said than if you meet a lady like the original Miss V, she broke many hearts when when left this city; broke even more when she simply vanished. I personally have zero chance of walking away, if she ever returns, I will be the first to book an appointment again. As for my current regulars, I am pretty sure none of them have that Miss V power over me.

This reminds me of that one local banker who spent hundreds of thousands of the bank's money on a MP lady.

 

[Albertaman]

This reminds me of that one local banker who spent hundreds of thousands of the bank's money on a MP lady.

His real mistake was in concentrating all that "spend" on one MP lady. If he had been generously spreading it around 50 MP ladies, one might have excused him for stimulating the local economy.

Joking aside, hobbyists need to understand the power of their wallet spend. If quality of services falters, or mind games get played on a loyal client, the act of withdrawing 100% of that spend away from that provider, with no further communication to them is most effective. Believe me, with some effort, you WILL find other providers as good or better.


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[deepbrowneyes99]

I think sometimes my jokes work better in my head then they do coming out of my face. If someone took offence, ZERO disrespect meant.

I might have an advantage in the ‘never getting attached’ racket, as I am not exactly single while participating in this hobby.
I never go in to a massage being available in the first place. Don’t get me wrong, I can definitely see the appeal, if I was single the pull would be strong.
But I also don’t think of myself as a pure money grab for the ladies either. As mentioned in other posts, I enjoy my time with the girls a whole bunch more when I don’t think my tip is only making a monthly Benz payment.
Attitude in = pleasure out.
To those who have had their heart string tied in knots? You have my deepest sympathy.

If you want a fool proof way of never gettin taken for large chunks of money, and getting your heart ripped out? Take up golf!!!! After it takes all your money, and rips your heart out 14/18 times a game, you won’t have any money left to loose to the ladies.

Your welcome.

I hate golf ( it’s a love/ hate relationship) that’s why I have played for 40 years and have a membership at a private golf club

 

[Deleted member 72001]

I hate golf ( it’s a love/ hate relationship) that’s why I have played for 40 years and have a membership at a private golf club

Like some of the ladies, golf is a cruel mistress.

 

[Albertaman]

Have said it before and will say it again. If you have been a steady, respectful good patron of any provider for some time but find that the respect is not running in both directions, the greatest way to honour yourself is to go cold turkey. Drop her, and never text or visit again. There are other therapists who will be thrilled to receive that stream of revenue. Most men lack stones and are not decisive enough.


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[UserNameTaken]

this is a capitalist system..every man for himself...unfortunately !

Capitalist system? What country you living in? Canada is as Socialist as you can get!

 

[Qster]

Here is an old Toronto story from years ago. A friend of mine had been seeing a regular for months and one day BBFS and DFK were added to the sessions; there was no discussion of extra money. When he asked, it was because he was different and she swore that she was on the pills. Little head had taken over so he started dumping loads into her. After a couple of months, he noticed a change in schedule. Instead of a rigid 28 days schedule, the lady's schedule became unpredictable. Initially, she still insisted that she was on the pills; but when my buddy's suspicion grew and an interrogation started, she eventually admitted in tears that she had stopped using the pills. She was getting older and she wanted to settle down. He was married at the time so he had to deal with a big mess.

Never get attached (and act stupidly) unless you know you can deal with the consequences. The reason I added it here is because I told that story recently to a local when he was offered BBFS by a long time regular because he was special.

 

[Fcktheids]

Both were special, they had special wallets, special net worth

 

[Mebad2018]

The thing with getting Bbfs is that you are most likely not be the only one that has been.

 

[Albertaman]

The thing with getting Bbfs is that you are most likely not be the only one that has been.

Health implications are terrible. On top of that it may be part of a gimmick where one pregnancy, real or faked may be used to scalp payments from several 'special' clients simultaneously. Some guys need more drama in their lives and they find it.


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[Bsmalls1]

It's hard to get sustainable satisfaction from this hobby. Everything is all temporary. Maybe that's a good and bad thing, though it's difficult to draw the line and quit.