How do you guys go back to normal sex?

[asiabuffet]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

 

[Young heart]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

Love your significant other only!!! Cherish her and spoil her....if you are happy with her then let go of the others....

 

[big.sleeze]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

You never truly quit, you’re only take a break. As much as you think shes “the one”, the reality is shes not yours, its just your turn. Eventually she’ll start weaponizing sex and only give it to you occasionally when you’ve been a good boy, so you’ll be looking for a quick fix when shes holding out. Or she’ll just straight up leave you for a bigger better deal. Can’t beat female nature. You’ll be back

 

[Nut_Job Nation]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

Try #nofap for 30 or more days to re-set. It works.

 

[exile]

Also forget the word normal. No one is normal. Your future partner might have kinks of her own that she's not yet ready to reveal. Explore them together.

 

[asiabuffet]

You never truly quit, you’re only take a break. As much as you think shes “the one”, the reality is shes not yours, its just your turn. Eventually she’ll start weaponizing sex and only give it to you occasionally when you’ve been a good boy, so you’ll be looking for a quick fix when shes holding out. Or she’ll just straight up leave you for a bigger better deal. Can’t beat female nature. You’ll be back

Hey. One issue is I'm thinking of other woman when having sex with her. Plus she's the one initiating it. Not the other way around. The main problem is with me thinking of other women. I doubt she can weaponize sex right now as she wants it more than I do right now. I got a problem. Need help.

 

[Steve416]

as stated above, you need to nofap for 30 days minumum; 90 days ideal. taper yourself off looking at porn and even LL listings/massage planet postings. It's all about re-wiring your physiology and dopamine receptors. the goal is to feel pleasure from a real, normal woman - your love. kudos to you for finding THE ONE and wanting to better yourself for her. That's not to say that those of you/us/me who do this hobby are weak or unworthy of normal love/life, it's just to each their own and their goals in life in that place and time. I wish you the best.

 

[sy barite]

I hobby less these days, I'd say two to four times a month, but even when it was that many times per week, it didn't negatively affect any aspect of my open life...if anything, it's always been an enhancer.

 

[throwaway33]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

How is she "The One" if you can't even look at her face during sex? Go find a more attractive wife?

Many guys including myself who hobby with wives at home just continue doing it. It is normal. Don't ask, don't tell. Don't bring any diseases home and don't be broke.

 

[asiabuffet]

as stated above, you need to nofap for 30 days minumum; 90 days ideal. taper yourself off looking at porn and even LL listings/massage planet postings. It's all about re-wiring your physiology and dopamine receptors. the goal is to feel pleasure from a real, normal woman - your love. kudos to you for finding THE ONE and wanting to better yourself for her. That's not to say that those of you/us/me who do this hobby are weak or unworthy of normal love/life, it's just to each their own and their goals in life in that place and time. I wish you the best.

Thanks!

 

[asiabuffet]

How is she "The One" if you can't even look at her face during sex? Go find a more attractive wife?

Many guys including myself who hobby with wives at home just continue doing it. It is normal. Don't ask, don't tell. Don't bring any diseases home and don't be broke.

I assume your wife at home isn't as attractive as some of the MPs youve seen over the years. How do you do it? Is it normal for you? Or do you think about other women while doing it? Just trying to understand the thought process. Thanks.

 

[newtothis82]

You have to 1. Stay off these boards. 2. Stop watching porn unless it’s with this lady. 3. Don’t go on any site they advertise escorts or mpas. That’s to start…I was good for over a year, now I think I’m a lifer. Trim down to maybe twice a month. It’s tough to stop, cause you go see a sexy chick who acts like she wants to fuck you badly and then you don’t even have to talk to her after or anything. There is a reason so many dudes hobby lol

 

[kittyhound69]

Hey guys. I am seriously thinking of quitting or at least cutting back on this hobby after many years of it. Decades actually. The truth is I've been single for so long and focus career orientated but now have found someone (The One) and want to put this hobby behind me and settle down. The major issue is not only the addiction to the hobby but also going back to "normal" sex. How you guys with wives or partners do it? I've heard others say they just imagine a different face or think of a different experience when doing it with their wives? Is this true? I am also thinking of sex addiction therapy. Any serious help? Is there any hope for me or us?

You have to try and keep it like the first time u fucked you THE ONE try and keep it different and exciting all the time. Good luck because it’s dam hard to keep it new .

 

[cjhobby]

How is she "The One" if you can't even look at her face during sex? Go find a more attractive wife?

Many guys including myself who hobby with wives at home just continue doing it. It is normal. Don't ask, don't tell. Don't bring any diseases home and don't be broke.

What he said

 

[Piperdawn]

Try some roleplay/cosplay

 

[daty869]

Everyone has a different “solution “ and it is different for everyone. I agree with a lot that has been offered from our brothers above. My “fix” is that I only hobby twice a month during the week of her period. Once with a regular and once at a random location - usually from reviews and recommendations from this board! Once a month I also go to non erotic place to work out the other muscles and get my receipt for office benefits. The other three weeks of the month are with “the One”. I have tried a lot of different tactics and found this to be the best balance for me, again everyone is different.

 

[HonestEd]

You get to bang The One with no condom right? That's much better no?

 

[throwaway33]

I assume your wife at home isn't as attractive as some of the MPs youve seen over the years. How do you do it? Is it normal for you? Or do you think about other women while doing it? Just trying to understand the thought process. Thanks.

Fried rice is my favorite food. I can prepare it a thousand different ways and it can keep me healthy and satisfied for the rest of my life. Sometimes I do have cravings for other foods; Steak, Kimchi, Indian, etc. I'll go out and enjoy once in a while but always go back to fried rice

My wife is fried rice

 

[daty869]

You get to bang The One with no condom right? That's much better no?

100% agree, in my case the MPA that I see once a month will do something that The One won’t do anymore

 

[barricksilver]

Don't think you can quit. Trust me you only take a break...