What Do you Men Like During A Massage?

[Pompal 09.]

I wanted to start this thread to see what makes a massage good to each and everyone of you.
I know that every mans answer will be different, which is good.
I know we all try our best to make it awesome but we do fall short.
I am first to admit that sometimes i am not sensual or on the ball with some clients, and i did not mean that statement in a dirty way at all lol.

Learning is what will make us better our services

I think it will be good to let it all out, cause i know me and many other masseuses would appreciate your honestly.

and please guys keep it civil and clean lol

 

[Uchiha Itachi]

Hi Dalia,

Have never had the pleasure, yet...

Personally, Im a big dude and have had many theraputic massages for my work. That being said, whether I am going for an erotic massage or a theraputic one, first and foremost, I want the masseuse to have skills and firm hands. I like the girl to spend some time on the back getting into the muscle, work the way down, the butt is a very important muscle full of trigger points that gets missed a lot. Finally the legs with some nice teasing, hands massaging the inside of the leg all the way to the groin. At this point, I love both hands back up the legs from the calves, thumbs pressing along the inside of the leg.

Body slide on my back is ok, not a big fan unless the MP has her hand between my legs teasing.

On the flip, either lying beside me (futon) and caressing, playful teasing by both then allowing me to massage them and then going for completion after or;
having them positioned over my head and massage down my body with completion while in a reverse Thai/pseudo 69 position.

I think having an MP have to ask if I want her to undress is redundant. I dont know too many guys that do not want their MP naked. a lot of MP's wait till the flip to undress, I would rather have them undressed while I am still on my stomach (heck Im naked! lol)

It is also important in any massage to have constant contact with the clients body, even if it is a hand sliding along the leg while they reposition. breaking the contact is a no-no in therapeutic massage.

Aromatic candles / soft lighting is also a nice touch. Appropriate music goes without saying.

I am sure there are other points I have overlooked, I will leave that up to my fellow eforum.xxxites

Titan

 

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I am happy to see that an MP is making an effort to consider the client. The main difference I have to TITAN is that if I need a theraputic massage I go to a real certified massage therapists. Speaking only for myself, the "erotic" MP for me is the opportunity to touch and be touched by a drop dead hot woman that I would never have a chance with in real life. I have said this before in different threads that this type of experience is too good to be true and can not possibly last. I have had this experience with Playboy and Porn Star worthy MP's. Because I think that this may not last we hobyiests should do all we can to make sure that it does last. The boundaries of all the different types of service providers need to be well defined. In other words, Massage places are for the massage and "manual" release (hand or russian) only. Stop pushing all the time for more (BJ,FS). Stick to the escorts for The bigger options. Dalia has her clear boundaries that need respecting. Part of that respect guys, is not asking for something that you are already aware is off limits. Pushing could result in a bad or mechanical experience. I am sure that MP's are turned off by some attitudes and they want nothing but to get you out of there as fast as possible.
As for the provider. All I ask to keep in mind is that the customer, to him, is paying a lot of money for this service and like any other paid for service, the customer will be upset if they feel like it was not money's worth. Most of us "get It" that it is a job for you but part of that job is the acting ability of the provider. Even a little sensuality goes a long way towards the fantasy for most men.

 

[Ethan Y]

Salut Dalia,
ce que j'aime durant le massage: je m'attends personnelement à beaucoup de douceurs et de sensualité. j'aime quand la fille pratique abondamment le teasing sur l'organe quand je suis couché sur le ventre.
Elle a un acces facile et c'est tres excitant se faire masser, caresser les fesses, les cuissse et l'intérieur des cuisses avec beaucoup de sensualité.
j'esperes bien te brencontrer un jour Dalia xx

 

[johnno]

Hi Dalia,

I only went for a sensual massage twice in Montreal, both times in one week in October 2006 at the now defunct Salon D'Or (I am usually a full service escort kind of guy). So I will defer to my more experienced brethren who have posted in this thread.

My experience at Salon D'Or was terrific, as compared to the MP experiences I have had in New York City. One reason was because the Salon had a jacuzzi and me and the masseuse (Emmanuelle, one of their best ladies) both got in for a nude jacuzzi skinny dip. This was nice. Afterwards, for the sensual massage part, we got on the table and she positioned me in an unusual position - "Indian style" with both of us seated facing each other with her legs straddling mine in such a way so that the pubic areas were almost touching. But facing each other with her eyes in mine. Very nice and highly arousing!

There was only negative - as I alerted her that I was about to cum, she pointed my erection away from her and towards my head, in such a way that I could have ejaculated in my own face. This was likely intended to avoid the same thing happening to her because up until when I came, it was pointed at her face. Instead I came on my own body instead of hers (my abdomen and chest), but I would have preferred coming on her body, or tits. I would still rate the overall experience as positive and above average compared to what I have had in New York City, and about 80% less in price.

 

[~JYP <3 Gail Kim]

thank you to all of you for your comments trust me they are all beign taken into account with me and i am sure other massage hotties as lapadict says lol.

Love dd's i wish i spoke better french, if you or someone else can translate i will ever so appreciate it.

eagerbeaver, indian style that is an interesting position, hmmm. I have had a few men that wanted that position, and i was fine with it, the whole pointing the gun to your head not soo good, funny buy not so good, she could have just covered it with her hand or did a different position.

see the problem with being one of us, is we dont always know what position you want or how you want to be touched.
some men dont want to be touched between the legs while others do, some like quiet others want to talk the whole time. some HATE thai massage, others love it, some love prostate others are scared to try it cause they were abused with other massage girls, lol, poor guys.
For us when we see someone for the first time, we experiment to see what is good and not good. I would love if the guy tells me before hand what he likes. that is why I always advertise "Design your massage experience", cause we are not alll the same.

I do have my limits as i am sure many other girls do as well, and constantly being asked is a downer and does make us become mechanical, in my case i just get annoyed, its a turn off. I always try my best to be as sensual as i can cause I know 100 is alot of money, and i want that guy walking away super happy.

 

[Eric Gees]

I can share something about the two best MPs I ever had, which involved taking maybe over a hundred with the first and 20+ with the second. In both cases, I was at least throughly fooled, or maybe it was true, into thinking she had a special affection for me. I felt she let herself show more with me than others might expect to experience. I can't say 100% for sure if it was an illusion, but in the first case she gave me her cell number and I called to say hi a couple time. She was asian with a strong accent so communication was hard on the phone. She stopped working so I let it go. In the second case, she told me a lot about her hard relationship with her boyfriend and I'm sure that afterwards she decided she told me too much. I swear she had something for me. But she recoiled once she realized it was going too far. In this case, I've had to stop because she's too human for me now... it's like shes a friend I care about, and for some odd reason I stopped getting aroused with her at the WRONG moment. ;-(. (Or maybe I have another problem... HOPE NOT!) Oh, there was a third best as well, maybe 15 times with her. She wanted to show me her new car once and while looking at it somehow we decided to go to a dance club for the evening. So, I guess it's totally unrealistic but from the non-physical side, I like it best when I feel special in her eyes. For the physical part, hey let's admit it, some women just know how to touch a man, whether they have actual massage skills or not. And when she knows... you simple get float in sensations of pleasure for at least half the time you're with her. There's no way to explain it, though maybe there are specific learn-able skills. Sadly, the vast majority of girls don't take the trouble to learn real skills, or they think they have the skills when they don't, and their hearts are not so into it either. A sign that you have it is what maybe 4+ repeats... Finally, frankly, I think the woman has to have the body type that turns you on. I don't specifically go for 'thin' girls but for some reason each of these three women were quite slender.

 

[Jesse T]

vtguy i agree with you, i even made that mistake where i have said too much, but i find that alot of clients want to know everything about me. And i dont want to lie, so i say as much as i can without crossing that line.

 

[Real Life]

What people do not like is as important as what they do like. The place has to be clean, if the place is a pig pen then the experience is ruined for me.

 

[chance]

If I'm not wrong, this position refers to the Lotus position.
http://www.3dkamasutrapositions.com/sex-positions/creative/1713/lotus-position/
Not all mps are comfortable to do it on the first session, but probably at the second and certainly on the third.
It is the highway to heaven if you tip her right. Remember to always bring your raincoat, even on sunny day.

 

[SEO]

having a warm & friendly personality is important. one can be friendly but still have a cold energy about them.

 

[Mrs.RighT]

What I like is a real soft teasing massage for around 15 min them i like to give the female a massage with touching if allowed daty. ( I luv this ) then I will let her do her thing. with me sitting or laying. the think I hate the most is that a lot of ladys stop as soon as you start to cum and donot continue to stroke so you get it all out. then they just walk away to clean up and pass you a box of kleenex. I have a big belly so sometime I cannot see were it all went and it is had to clean it up. It is nice when they get a hot or warm tawel and clean you up after.

 

[Fatindivid]

That's true but cleanliness itself never makes for a good meetup. I mean many could have a good session in a dirty place, but regardless of how clean a place is, if she's not good, that's it, you're gone.

 

[komets.geo]

As you like. We're all different. But I think there's a fine art to teasing... If you're not going to take a break like you describe, and you begin with a real massage which lasts maybe 30 minutes of the hour, at a certain point she begins the tease. It's good if she repeats the teasing gesture at good intervals, not too long, keep it going!, don't lose the new stage you've started... And then on the flip you should be sufficiently arroused... Then she can continue with a regular massage of your legs but keep returning briefly, and occasionally, to the prime member. in this way you can build a lot of tension. so, it's not so much stroking that works (but that needs to be good too) but the build up... it's all about anticipation and build up... and you can't loose the energy and have to start over, or let the massage drift back to regular massage. Once you go erotic, keep it going. And my ideal is to have it erotic for 75% of the time. That's my dream.. So enjoy a woody for a long time,with the perfect gentle soft touch. oh, i'll never meet another Kenu! i'm sure. She was one in a million, and the hundreds who passed by her chamber never knew it because... they were not so nice to her!

 

[Shadow Striker]

A guide on how to perform an erotic massage: http://www.sexuality.org/erotmass.html

Ring and milker are probably the unanimity !

 

[Caron]

dalia, the atwater location was clean and presentable, except for the shower. frankly, it was filthy. there was a build up of who knows what, so i didn't use it.

 

[M N]

It was close, but not exactly the lotus position. In "Indian style", both the masseuse's and client's asses are seated, and not off the table and in the air as in Lotus position. The legs of the masseuse straddle on top of the client's legs. The pubic areas are within inches of each other but not touching.

In the diagram you posted, the male dummy has his ass in the air. It should be seated on the table. Same with the female dummy.

 

[south253side]

Thank you for alll your comments very helpfull and i agree on them all. Thank you roger for that link. It is nice to know what every guy wants, and as you can see it varies.

DONZO.....I personally clean up the mess as you call it, when my client comes, so sorry to hear that girls hand you the kleenex box, i clean it with a facecloth, as many as are needed

Johnmbot dont get me started on that bathroom, i know, getting the other girls to clean it is like pulling teeth at times. I am sorry, I clean it when i ever i am there, like no joke i am in my underwear and bra cleaning the bathroom and scrubbing the floor like old italian women at 3am in the morning every friday.

But in all fairness it was like that when we got the place, i have used clr like it was going out of style, nothing worked.
I am looking for a new location in the plateau. keep fingers crossed

 

[meemeek]

what makes it sensual, i know every guy is different, so i would love to know for each guy what it is

 

[caspar]

They say a picture is worth a 1,000 words. At the same time feeling it beats describing it.

I would reverse the question and ask you what makes a sensual massage work for you.... as a receiver of a massage?

Many MP's that I visit have not or do not have massages done on them. Therefore they have limited knowledge on how things feel to be a recipiate, what techniques used on them are better than others and how they can deliver a better flow through the massage. (being groped by untrained horny guys does not qualify as a massage).
Experience and education are the fundamental tools, lacking by many.
In regard to senuality, this is more a product of who you are than what you learn. You can learn how to touch or where to touch but if there is no passion, or a sincere desire to please then this will be transferred to the recipiate.
In my opinion, the best MP's are those who sincerely enjoy their work or have the ability to make their partner feel special and hold their pleasure as paramount in the session.
Take a few massages and you too will learn the difference based on the quality of your MP.