What kind of monger are you?

[Symnkayakex]

YES! that is exactly how I approach it. We are doing business and respect each other. But, there is also the understanding that this is an business arrangement- money for sex. On occasion that combo becomes the basis for a friendship based on mutual respect and great sex.

But, then there are those times when you just start to want to believe that which you know cannot be true. You want to buy the fantasy that this beautiful 22y/o fuckbunny (your youthful fantasy) is really having these feelings for you. But sooner or later something will happen to remind you that this is all a business arrangement. Then the fantasy evaporates. In reality you were just a very good customer not a boyfriend.

 

[crissysmith4u]

In all probability older women will give better sex as they are more experienced, besides they have lesser and dwindling customer base, unlike those so called trophy ladies. Unfortunately Phillipines is not exactly near, and I heard good stories about it and Thailand too.

 

[Pompal 09.]

The only expensive thing about PI is getting the

 

[Lady Gaga Fan]

I would love to go to the Phillipines, Thailand or Cambodia.
As soon as I hit the lotto I'm there. For now, TJ is only
30 minutes away and much more cost efficient.

 

[Steve Rogers]

I noticed that in TJ, I started getting the olderwomen after a while. Some would be GFE, which I never got from someone in TJ who was under 30. But if you want something longer than 15 minutes take a trip to Angeles City in the Philippine Islands, often when you get a girl, you can keep her until morning. And even the hot 9's and 10's give you their best, and the ones that don't, still give you a better experience than the TJ girls did when I was there 15 years ago.

 

[Ann]

I prefer the older, thicker models. Not too old, and not too thick,
just right. I find they are more,"experienced" in the sack and give
you more for your money. Occasionally, I will go for the ,"trophy
fuck", the younger 9's and 10's that we all see in the bars, most
of which are lousy in bed and we only get 15 minutes at best
with them.

 

[Boomer Wisdom]

I think I might be "The Friend" I try to consider who I get to be my equal, I respect them, more so than a real girlfriend most of the times. If the girl ends up trying to not provide a full service until completion, I then suddenly become "the opportunist", I get my nut and kick her out.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Gents:
Why not become a happy monger ? I think that the only reason I go to T.J
AND aboard for this activity. We work hard enough to earn the monies and
have all the good reasons to enjoy the time in TJ. I am enjoying the TJ. atmosphere
along with Chicas in here SG or BG when I know them I always treat like a friend
in business. I know the Chica just like a mechanical deed most of the time.
However, I really like the girl with a little bit more sensitive in bed.
Enjoy gents,

 

[essentiallysolo]

Alright Kittyfreak yours are words of wisdom ! Now only if the rest or most of us follow that rule, it could save some heartbreaks ! As you said we all develop feelings at sometime or the other though some of us wont admit to it, gotta keep things in perspective. But there are some exceptions as some girls dont go upstairs or claim they dont, well I will leave that for another post

 

[Porcupine]

Hey, bro I think we have all developed feelings for a WG to some extent. It is just helpful to try to keep it all "in perspective" ( ...the girl fucks for money- remember that) to avoid doing any damage to yourself or to her.

 

[sirima b]

Fireballs, you started a good post here, Thanks for researching the various John types. I was a "sex" butterfly rarely sticking with one woman. But I will be dammed to have fallen in the Lover/Friends/Guardians category. I need to be like Brant or Kittfreak, use it and leave it at that. But we must remember that sometimes in our weaker moment or whatever our personal circumstances are one can fall into the "love' relationship and then tragedy waits round the corner.
I think a lot of people pass through some of the roles mentioned whereas some stick to their fixed role. Thats my take.

 

[.:Jes:.]

I like to hunt solo

I'm somewhere in there. Maybe a mix of the lover, friend ,guardian mixed with some other type.

 

[Ernesto]

How about the "frugalist". I try to get it as cheap as I can
for as good as I can, for as long as I can. Hopefully they
wont bore me with their life story, but if thats what I have
to listen to to get all I can, I'm game. I use them and then
lose them.

 

[Pompal 09.]

I agree with you completely, Fireballs. There could easily be more "john" archetypes.

Isn't there a bit of the "opportunist" in most of us? I mean, we are just sport fucking. rarely do most of us even know the girl's real name or anything about her. I don't consider any woman to be a cum receptacle but I also don't seek a meaningful relationship with a pro besides a sexual one.

Likewise, isn't there a bit of the "promoter" in everyone who posts information on mpnet? this could be considered a motivation to share info about the best pro to have sex with, writing a trip report, or posting pictures of "conquests"?

I've got one. How about the "Daytripper"? Guys who normally lead respectable (even hypocritical) lives but sometimes secretly slip into the somewhat "seedy" world of places like the Zona and get almost as much of a rush from "the experience" as from the sex.

 

[Jamie W]

I treat whores as Cum dumpsters. Unfortunately I must line the garbage can with a hefty bag to ensure I don't have a lasting effect from the encounter.

 

[jambajuice22]

The Opportunists: treat prostitutes purely as sexual repositories, establish no relationship with any of the women, and have minimal contact with them.

The Fraternisers: visit prostitutes in pairs or groups. Their visits are mainly male social affairs involving women only as peripheral companions.

The Promoters: seek personal satisfaction and peer prestige by encouraging other men to visit prostitutes they know. In return they expect emotional support from the women and a kind of non-sexual relationship with them.

The Adventurers: are mostly young men seeking sexual experimentation. They require a kind of therapeutic relationship with the women during their sexual explorations.

The Lovers: seek romantic attachments with prostitutes. They are usually older men who wish to rescue the women from a life of crime and corruption.

The Friends: are usually married, middle-aged and seek to have prostitutes as companions or second wives supplying sex on demand.

The Guardians: are usually the oldest "type". They see themselves as protectors of young prostitutes, perceived as "child-women".

The Juveniles: can be of any age but usually single. They prefer older prostitutes for the opposite reason to the "Guardians" seeking the younger ones. They want mother-figures.

The Slaves: wish to be dominated by prostitutes and seek humiliation in order to express homosexual, infantile, transvestite or exhibitionist fantasies.


I came across this list reading about 'Pimps and Patrons' the boys in the business. It seems there are very few studies on the behavior on the 'John's' the guys that visit prostitutes. One study by Charles Winick way back in 1962 felt men who visited prostitutes are disturbed in some way, others see the prostitution customers just as normal as regular guys who don't visit prostitutes. The other study was from Martha Stein, 1974 study where she used observation and psychoanalysis to come up with nine 'types' of clients.{ the list above}

We on these sex forums usually talk about only two kinds of Mongers: First type who see prostitutes as 'cum receptacles' and dirty nasty whores, who are beneath the monger who is fucking them. The second, type we see as foolish, we call them the 'PLM' [pathetic loser monger] who seeks out prostitutes in order to make them their girlfriend, only to get burned in the end.

Personally I HATE the mongers who see prostitutes as 'cum receptacles' but they are usually the majority of people on sex forums, you can tell who they are when you see them write, ' THEY ARE JUST WHORES.' I just think they are missing out. The second type, the 'PLMs' I think they can be foolish, but I have a little more respect for them, and always wish them well. It's only when they start bragging about what a STUD they are for being able to pick up prostitutes that I lose my respect for them too. But as you see there are many types of mongers, not just the two we mainly talk about, and if it was up to me I could come up with a longer list.

One of the most interesting type of monger on the list is the 'Promoter' I had trouble in the past trying to figure out why certain mongers were into promotion without real monetary rewards, but now I think I understand it a little more.

I always wondered about the 'Fraternisers' guys or group of guys who just hang out at the zona, to drink and just bullshit, but don't fuck the sex workers. I don't know why, but I never trusted them. I always felt, if your going to visit a 'red zone' you ought to get some pussy too. The Fraternisers in Tijuana are mostly Asian, but there are other groups as well.