Question When do you cut ties with a regular?

[djasper]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new to the MP scene and was hoping some of you veterans could shed some light on my current situation. I’ve been seeing a particular MPA regularly – about seven times so far within a month – and in my recent visit, I noticed a change in her behaviour.

She usually greets me with a smile and a long hug, but this did not happen in my recent visit. When we got to the room, she said she could only do 30 minutes even though I booked an hour appointment with the owner. This was odd since we went about 5-8 minutes overtime, but I didn’t see any other customers show up. Additionally, she’s ok with me licking and sucking on her tits, but for some reason, she had her hands covering up her boobs and would not let me explore them. As well, she’s normally open to conversation, but she would not engage in much discussion / give one word answers or say “I don’t know” quite a bit – I know from previous visits that this is her way of not answering particular questions, but she was saying this more than usual.

So, of course, a lot of thoughts and scenarios went through my mind on my drive home. She was working on a day that she normally doesn’t, and when I noticed her cold behaviour early, I actually asked her about it and she said she didn’t want to be working that day. Hence, this is probably the most likely explanation. Or maybe she saw a customer earlier in the day that put her in a bad mood (maybe he was rough with her tits, and thus, she didn’t want me to play with them?... I’m kind of reaching here, lol).

But then I also thought about if there were any changes from my second last visit to my recent visit – we exchanged numbers and added each other on chat app. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer. In another visit, we were in the heat of the moment, staring at each other, and I said “I wish I could do this every night with you” and she said “take me home” (not as a joke… I think? Lol … or was it “invite me home”… you get the point). Anyways, I should cut the details here, who knows if she browses this forum!

So yeah, I’m not sure what to make of this, but it’s been on my mind enough that I’m making a post about it. I know some of you have been in this game for decades, so maybe you’ve experienced something similar with your regular(s) in the past/current… Any thoughts or advice on my situation? Am I just over-reacting and it was probably just a one-off as she was working a non-scheduled day? I suppose I’ll find out in my next visit, but this won’t happen for a few weeks due to personal stuff. Where do you draw the line in terms of personal connection and conversation with a regular?

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

 

[maxusat]

. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer.

Sounds like she prefers your company as a client, not as anything more at the moment.

7 times in the same month is a bit abnormal.

 

[OG_funguy]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new to the MP scene and was hoping some of you veterans could shed some light on my current situation. I’ve been seeing a particular MPA regularly – about seven times so far within a month – and in my recent visit, I noticed a change in her behaviour.

She usually greets me with a smile and a long hug, but this did not happen in my recent visit. When we got to the room, she said she could only do 30 minutes even though I booked an hour appointment with the owner. This was odd since we went about 5-8 minutes overtime, but I didn’t see any other customers show up. Additionally, she’s ok with me licking and sucking on her tits, but for some reason, she had her hands covering up her boobs and would not let me explore them. As well, she’s normally open to conversation, but she would not engage in much discussion / give one word answers or say “I don’t know” quite a bit – I know from previous visits that this is her way of not answering particular questions, but she was saying this more than usual.

So, of course, a lot of thoughts and scenarios went through my mind on my drive home. She was working on a day that she normally doesn’t, and when I noticed her cold behaviour early, I actually asked her about it and she said she didn’t want to be working that day. Hence, this is probably the most likely explanation. Or maybe she saw a customer earlier in the day that put her in a bad mood (maybe he was rough with her tits, and thus, she didn’t want me to play with them?... I’m kind of reaching here, lol).

But then I also thought about if there were any changes from my second last visit to my recent visit – we exchanged numbers and added each other on chat app. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer. In another visit, we were in the heat of the moment, staring at each other, and I said “I wish I could do this every night with you” and she said “take me home” (not as a joke… I think? Lol … or was it “invite me home”… you get the point). Anyways, I should cut the details here, who knows if she browses this forum!

So yeah, I’m not sure what to make of this, but it’s been on my mind enough that I’m making a post about it. I know some of you have been in this game for decades, so maybe you’ve experienced something similar with your regular(s) in the past/current… Any thoughts or advice on my situation? Am I just over-reacting and it was probably just a one-off as she was working a non-scheduled day? I suppose I’ll find out in my next visit, but this won’t happen for a few weeks due to personal stuff. Where do you draw the line in terms of personal connection and conversation with a regular?

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

So in total, you've seen her for around a month, correct?

Anyways, you probably won't like what I have to say but those are not good signs...it looks like she's trying to dis-engage but who knows why...maybe she's afraid you are getting too close, maybe tips not enough, maybe she got a new BF...it could be anything. If you really like her, then by all means, go see her again but if you get the same cold treatment, time to find a new fave my friend...

 

[Farm Gate]

Trust me when I say this, end it before it hurts you emotionally. Obsession is bad in this business.

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[luvdafurburger]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new to the MP scene and was hoping some of you veterans could shed some light on my current situation. I’ve been seeing a particular MPA regularly – about seven times so far within a month – and in my recent visit, I noticed a change in her behaviour.

She usually greets me with a smile and a long hug, but this did not happen in my recent visit. When we got to the room, she said she could only do 30 minutes even though I booked an hour appointment with the owner. This was odd since we went about 5-8 minutes overtime, but I didn’t see any other customers show up. Additionally, she’s ok with me licking and sucking on her tits, but for some reason, she had her hands covering up her boobs and would not let me explore them. As well, she’s normally open to conversation, but she would not engage in much discussion / give one word answers or say “I don’t know” quite a bit – I know from previous visits that this is her way of not answering particular questions, but she was saying this more than usual.

So, of course, a lot of thoughts and scenarios went through my mind on my drive home. She was working on a day that she normally doesn’t, and when I noticed her cold behaviour early, I actually asked her about it and she said she didn’t want to be working that day. Hence, this is probably the most likely explanation. Or maybe she saw a customer earlier in the day that put her in a bad mood (maybe he was rough with her tits, and thus, she didn’t want me to play with them?... I’m kind of reaching here, lol).

But then I also thought about if there were any changes from my second last visit to my recent visit – we exchanged numbers and added each other on chat app. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer. In another visit, we were in the heat of the moment, staring at each other, and I said “I wish I could do this every night with you” and she said “take me home” (not as a joke… I think? Lol … or was it “invite me home”… you get the point). Anyways, I should cut the details here, who knows if she browses this forum!

So yeah, I’m not sure what to make of this, but it’s been on my mind enough that I’m making a post about it. I know some of you have been in this game for decades, so maybe you’ve experienced something similar with your regular(s) in the past/current… Any thoughts or advice on my situation? Am I just over-reacting and it was probably just a one-off as she was working a non-scheduled day? I suppose I’ll find out in my next visit, but this won’t happen for a few weeks due to personal stuff. Where do you draw the line in terms of personal connection and conversation with a regular?

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

She knows she has u wrapped around her little finger because you have seen her seven times already. She doesn't have to be nice anymore and she can bitch slap you and you'll be back for more.

If she doesn't want to open up and tell you her issue if she even has one then that's on her.

Don't ever let a woman play games and fuck with you...any woman.

Next!

 

[hangul99]

Is she working at a holistic fs place or a semi legit place?

Don't see her for awhile. I'm sure she'll contact you.

 

[Baldee]

Seven visits in one month should be a red flag so maybe she thinks you are smitten and she wants no drama.

 

[SuperSport]

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

Sorry to hear of your confusion, it could be worse.

She said can only do 30 minutes. Who cares if she does not like you as much anymore (doubt that's the case) you would be dollar signs and surely she massaged multiple guys every day and doubt she liked them. Her tits became out of bounds. Sure sounds like period time to me, she tires easily and is sore.

If an MPA asks you to take her home, clarify what she meant. Did she mean, drive her home to her place? If she meant take her to your home, clarify that, then explain she's welcome (with caveats - place mess etc) or if she's not welcome, why not (wife, room mate etc.). Flirting with her is one thing, saying you want to be with her every night is another thing, and then she asked you the big question ('home") and it appears as if you just blew her off. This relationship is the epitome of "awkward" imo.

If you need to come on the board to fix it, or make things better, my advice is to stop and start over again somewhere else, only next time, don't read too much into things, be more careful flirting and put more effort into communication ..... so that next time your regular MPA shorten's your time, ask her, "Is everything OK, are you OK, can I get you a hot tea?" Your genuine concern for her is all that matters, she will likely not accept anything, but she won't forget that you've shown her, "It's not all about me."

 

[Pay2Play]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new to the MP scene and was hoping some of you veterans could shed some light on my current situation. I’ve been seeing a particular MPA regularly – about seven times so far within a month – and in my recent visit, I noticed a change in her behaviour.

She usually greets me with a smile and a long hug, but this did not happen in my recent visit. When we got to the room, she said she could only do 30 minutes even though I booked an hour appointment with the owner. This was odd since we went about 5-8 minutes overtime, but I didn’t see any other customers show up. Additionally, she’s ok with me licking and sucking on her tits, but for some reason, she had her hands covering up her boobs and would not let me explore them. As well, she’s normally open to conversation, but she would not engage in much discussion / give one word answers or say “I don’t know” quite a bit – I know from previous visits that this is her way of not answering particular questions, but she was saying this more than usual.

So, of course, a lot of thoughts and scenarios went through my mind on my drive home. She was working on a day that she normally doesn’t, and when I noticed her cold behaviour early, I actually asked her about it and she said she didn’t want to be working that day. Hence, this is probably the most likely explanation. Or maybe she saw a customer earlier in the day that put her in a bad mood (maybe he was rough with her tits, and thus, she didn’t want me to play with them?... I’m kind of reaching here, lol).

But then I also thought about if there were any changes from my second last visit to my recent visit – we exchanged numbers and added each other on chat app. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer. In another visit, we were in the heat of the moment, staring at each other, and I said “I wish I could do this every night with you” and she said “take me home” (not as a joke… I think? Lol … or was it “invite me home”… you get the point). Anyways, I should cut the details here, who knows if she browses this forum!

So yeah, I’m not sure what to make of this, but it’s been on my mind enough that I’m making a post about it. I know some of you have been in this game for decades, so maybe you’ve experienced something similar with your regular(s) in the past/current… Any thoughts or advice on my situation? Am I just over-reacting and it was probably just a one-off as she was working a non-scheduled day? I suppose I’ll find out in my next visit, but this won’t happen for a few weeks due to personal stuff. Where do you draw the line in terms of personal connection and conversation with a regular?

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

Sounds like she has cut ties with you! Move on and don’t look back.

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

Hi Everyone,

I’m new to the MP scene and was hoping some of you veterans could shed some light on my current situation. I’ve been seeing a particular MPA regularly – about seven times so far within a month – and in my recent visit, I noticed a change in her behaviour.

She usually greets me with a smile and a long hug, but this did not happen in my recent visit. When we got to the room, she said she could only do 30 minutes even though I booked an hour appointment with the owner. This was odd since we went about 5-8 minutes overtime, but I didn’t see any other customers show up. Additionally, she’s ok with me licking and sucking on her tits, but for some reason, she had her hands covering up her boobs and would not let me explore them. As well, she’s normally open to conversation, but she would not engage in much discussion / give one word answers or say “I don’t know” quite a bit – I know from previous visits that this is her way of not answering particular questions, but she was saying this more than usual.

So, of course, a lot of thoughts and scenarios went through my mind on my drive home. She was working on a day that she normally doesn’t, and when I noticed her cold behaviour early, I actually asked her about it and she said she didn’t want to be working that day. Hence, this is probably the most likely explanation. Or maybe she saw a customer earlier in the day that put her in a bad mood (maybe he was rough with her tits, and thus, she didn’t want me to play with them?... I’m kind of reaching here, lol).

But then I also thought about if there were any changes from my second last visit to my recent visit – we exchanged numbers and added each other on chat app. In that time frame, I just sent her some casual texts asking how her day’s going and if she’s working on an unscheduled day – she reads the messages but doesn’t’ respond. Obviously, we have somewhat a connection based on the number of times I’ve seen her, but she sends mixed signals (e.g. I asked her if she wanted to get dinner (as I was the last client for the day a few weeks ago) and she didn’t answer. In another visit, we were in the heat of the moment, staring at each other, and I said “I wish I could do this every night with you” and she said “take me home” (not as a joke… I think? Lol … or was it “invite me home”… you get the point). Anyways, I should cut the details here, who knows if she browses this forum!

So yeah, I’m not sure what to make of this, but it’s been on my mind enough that I’m making a post about it. I know some of you have been in this game for decades, so maybe you’ve experienced something similar with your regular(s) in the past/current… Any thoughts or advice on my situation? Am I just over-reacting and it was probably just a one-off as she was working a non-scheduled day? I suppose I’ll find out in my next visit, but this won’t happen for a few weeks due to personal stuff. Where do you draw the line in terms of personal connection and conversation with a regular?

If you have any personal stories with a regular and how it turned out, do share! Thanks for reading my essay

Biggest piece of advise is don’t take this hobby to serious. 7 visits in a month seem to me to be to much (just my opinion). Seeing her that frequent your going to get her on good days and on bad days. The bad days will stand out more than the good. See her less frequent, and if she is into you she will be happy to see you even on those bad days.
You said your taking a bit of a break for personal stuff. That’s probably a good thing. When you go back you will know for sure, if she’s happy to see you or still more of the same. If it’s more of the same it may be time to move on and find another, before you get to attached.
Good Luck and keep us posted!

 

[Craig_45671234523__]

I cut ties with my regulars once I see they are faking it more than usual or if they give me the cold shoulder. One cold shoulder is enough for me to look elsewhere because I know the service is going to go down from there.

 

[Mav]

Like others have suggested…. 7 times a month is excessive. You are not a regular at this point. You are on the cusp of being either obsessed or worse.

I can understand when you get legit feelings for a girl but you have to realize, this is her job. You aren’t that special to her. She isn’t into dating guys from work. She gets paid to do this and just like you when your work day is over, she wants to leave it behind. Can read when things are getting excessive and she protects herself.

You went from 0-200mph and scared her away. She’s gone now. Try someone else, and easy does it with the throttle.

 

[OG_funguy]

The fact that she doesn’t respond to your texts is a very bad sign too…basically she’s indicating that she’s only interested in a business relationship. I mean things could always change but that’s where her mindset appears to be right now.

 

[MorningWood]

From her perspective you might be entering stalker territory.

 

[Victor Charlie]

Sounds like you need to give her some space. Don't see this chick for the next six months (this includes no texting (if she texts you back don't answer), no stalking, no creeping, no over obsessing her, etc). After the six month separation, if she is still working @ the spa, see her again. She might have a positive attitude and prolly wants to know how your life has been and what you have been up to. She'll see and understand that you finally have a life and now you can bullshit or brag to her all the great things you've done or explored when you were away.
Who knows, you might be attracted to someone else within that six month frame and the one you had the hots for doesn't interest you anymore.

Most important thing, try not to or never fall in love with an MPA because your emotions well easily be exploited and once she gains your confidence, you are literally going to get fucked in the ass and you'll lose the game and she'll badly take advantage of you and view you as a sad sorry motherfucker. But don't worry, you're gonna be alright. Trial and error. Just take a break from the game, get your senses back on track and don't worry about her.

Hope this helps

 

[DaNatural]

1) when you’re bored of her
2) when you don’t feel the connection anymore (as in your case)
3) when you catch a feel

 

[cupcrazy]

you are the customer, you decide when to cut it off. If you are thinking about starting a relationship with the mpa, i would definitely proceed with caution. there is a thread on dating mpa. you should read it. There is one mpa i visit every so often. we are more than customer and service provider but up to friend's limit. when i need her help, she will help me out and i will do the same for her.

 

[Barney_B]

Take the power back. Book her and then at the end share with her your comments. As you walk out, you have the power. You will never see her again. So call her out on it.

Be respectful. But the GTA is cover with eager beavers.

 

[djasper]

Nice, thanks for the input guys. Just to answer some questions:

Technically, it was 7 times for 4.5 weeks, but not that it really matters. In hindsight, I guess it was too many visits, but I prefer seeing the same person multiple times for comfort reasons – I usually get nervous/anxious when I see an MPA for the first time. Maybe I should just have 2-3 MPA on rotation.

It’s a holistic place, and I tip $140/$240 for 30/60 min, so I don’t think it’s a tip issue.

I am fully aware that a relationship isn’t possible and yes, I read that entire “dating mpa” thread and just know from a personal stance that it won’t work out … for me, relationship is all about trust and that cannot exist when you’re with a SP/MPA – she can never fully trust you and vice versa. And yet, there’s a part of me that wants to establish a friendship / fwb type of relationship with her… probably not likely.

I can’t see her for a few weeks, but the next time I see her, if I get the same cold treatment, I’ll have to move on. That would be shame though ☹

I’m a single guy, no gf/wife/kids … but no place of my own, haha. Where will I find a million dollars for a home? But yeah, I should have clarified this “home” comment with her, but I didn’t think much of it at the time and just thought of it as a “heat of the moment” comment.

 

[Mav]

Nice, thanks for the input guys. Just to answer some questions:

Technically, it was 7 times for 4.5 weeks, but not that it really matters. In hindsight, I guess it was too many visits, but I prefer seeing the same person multiple times for comfort reasons – I usually get nervous/anxious when I see an MPA for the first time. Maybe I should just have 2-3 MPA on rotation.

It’s a holistic place, and I tip $140/$240 for 30/60 min, so I don’t think it’s a tip issue.

I am fully aware that a relationship isn’t possible and yes, I read that entire “dating mpa” thread and just know from a personal stance that it won’t work out … for me, relationship is all about trust and that cannot exist when you’re with a SP/MPA – she can never fully trust you and vice versa. And yet, there’s a part of me that wants to establish a friendship / fwb type of relationship with her… probably not likely.

I can’t see her for a few weeks, but the next time I see her, if I get the same cold treatment, I’ll have to move on. That would be shame though ☹

I’m a single guy, no gf/wife/kids … but no place of my own, haha. Where will I find a million dollars for a home? But yeah, I should have clarified this “home” comment with her, but I didn’t think much of it at the time and just thought of it as a “heat of the moment” comment.

Try to look at things from her side. Think dateline or 60 minutes. All types of real life stories where guys get super attached quickly and then something terrible happens. I know you aren’t that guy, but it is all about perspective. They are all nice guys until they aren’t. She has a formula that she is comfortable with and it seems obvious to most of us that she became uncomfortable and shut the door. Don’t see her again, especially not in a couple weeks. A lot more time needs to pass.

If you can’t cold turkey it and move on to someone else, then maybe she was right.