Why do women think getting lap dances and erotic massages is cheating?

[Member of The Year]

It's not cheating at all. There is no emotional component to it, it's done with a professional and most of all there is no penetration. This is why men have to lie about going to stripclubs and massage parlors because women overreact. Why can't I enjoy myself instead of lying and saying I am going to kinko's to make copies?

 

[NOYFB]

My girlfriend doesn't care if I go to a strip club. Sometimes she even comes with me. We went to the Rocket Room and Exotica about a month ago, and it was her idea. I think girls that look at it as cheating are very insecure and don't trust their partner.

My girlfriend knows I would never cheat on her and I know she would never cheat on me. She doesn't care if I touch another girls' boobs at a strip club, and I could care less if she touched another mans' d**k at a hens night. She's mine, I'm hers. So strip clubs, bucks nights, hens nights are all fine with both of us.

EDIT - I don't know why I bother, you're all idiots...ok 97% of you are idiots.

 

[John Public]

It is cheating in a sense.

Dude, lets be honest, alot of massages end with a hand job. I even know a place up the street where you give the girl more money, she will give you an orgasm. Massage parlors have done this for years, that's half the point.

And what about when a woman grinds her pvssy against you in a strip club and makes you c*m. Wouldn't that be cheating?

It also makes your girlfriend feel insecure, like she isn't doing her job. "Why is he going to a strip club? Am I not pleasing him? Am I doing something wrong? Is he not attracted to me anymore?" etc.

 

[Neo]

Some women are immature and insecure and can't tolerate it.

Other women are mature and confident with themselves and their partners. If he looks at some boobies once in awhile, it doesn't matter so long as he is coming home to her.

 

[Lorraine]

Because for women sex is an emotional thing. Most women can't disconnect the act of giving their bodies or attention to someone sexually from their feelings. Women who are prostitutes, porn actresses and strippers can, because they are only focused on the money they're going to get. I know it's hard to understand. It's always been hard for me to understand how men can be so unemotional about sex. I guess it's biological.

 

[Leo D]

Lust is an emotion, making your statement false. Are you OK with your gf getting a massage with a happy ending from other men, as long as there is no penetration.

Do you want your woman coming home and kissing you after another man has been rubbing his penis all over her face?

 

[VagineDentata]

Because only perpetual adolescent boys need to resort to this.

 

[Lisa]

It's not cheating if you're in an open relationship. If you're hiding it from her it's because you know what you're doing (according to the expectations in your current relationship) is wrong.

Would it bother you if she started hanging out at male strip clubs, receiving lapdances from men or having erotic massages from good-looking guys? I bet if the tables were turned you wouldn't be too happy, especially knowing she'd been sneaking around behind your back and hiding it from you.

 

[Alice Grey]

Going to a strip club just to ogle at another woman like a pervert when you have a perfectly good girlfriend at home is kinda like buying two homes but only visiting one of the homes but only living in one while the other you just bought to look at and sit outside on the driveway,......completely unnecessary

 

[Old's cool]

I don't think the cheating part is just physical. And from what *I* understand--men think any touching IS cheating, and emotional cheating isn't as bad. So, are youa weird guy, or just trying to justify getting yoru rocks off with someone not the one you're committed to?

"This is why men have to lie about going to stripclubs and massage parlors because women overreact. "
No, men lie because they can't accept responsibility for their actions. Don't blame women for YOUR lies.