Are you a mongerer or a Gfer

[--*tenderoni]

Seems like those of us who go to LOS belong to two different camps, albeit each camp with many factions and extremes.

First of all their is the mongering camp, god bless their little hearts. Its so easy for them. Find them, f*ck them, and forget them. I'd love to be a mongerer but unfortunately I belong in the other mob, the Gfers.

We like the GFE and life is very complicated for us. Oh yeah we have good hearts alright, but we give them away. We can't help it. There are a lot of water buffalo amongst us and the bg's love us and we want to take care of them and save them from the mongerers.

And then we go back to farangland and suffer. And the mongerers get to tell tales of their conquests and smile.

Am I right or am I just feeling sorry for myself....

 

[pretty]

Harden up Princess!
I'm a mongerer.

 

[lesley.mullin]

I guess people monger until they found a gf/wife they feel they have a future with?

 

[SkepDoc 2.0]

Never say never....

 

[ha-ha]

Or they just want to have a fun 10-day holiday without the complications associated with forming an emotional attachment!

 

[Fish Lover]

You are taking a very limited view here to make a statement that there are only two camps that go to LOS. But, since this is context you are asking the question/raising the issue, then all I can say is that you are probably getting something in "LOS" that you can't get otherwise...

You're not saving (from the mongerers) anyone from anything. You are hallucinating.

If you are suffering when you go back, then you are suffering before you even went. Jealousy of mongers is just another sign of the suffering.

I don't want to diminish your thread in any way other than to express my "limited" point of view, but... at the end of the day, you are a (I am guessing BG's?) PERFECT target... someone who doubts themselves, where they are in life, etc.

Just go for what you want in life... don't worry about the next guy...

 

[working girl]

"There are a lot of water buffalo amongst us and the bg's love us and we want to take care of them and save them from the mongerers."

I had to laugh at this sentence the bar girls do not love any of us they love are money. A bar girl once told me i dont love farang i love farang money but i will tell him i love him. I think that has hit the nail in the head!

 

[iFree]

I don't mind if people are looking for the ultimate gfe (or GF), or if the are hardcore mongerers.
But I like to do some initial butterflying, and then settle for a multi-day gfe. Maybe it's just my imagination, but it seems the girl is more relaxed and willing to please. So to speak The fact that her income is secured for X number of days is of course also a factor.

 

[Thornita]

Mongering at first is the most exiting time of the trip. There is feeling quite like it, going out knowing there is so much choice and knowing all you have to do is choose which hot girl to take home. Sometimes the hardest thing is to settle with one when you could have so many others asking yourself is this the one best for tonite?
I must admit after a few weeks the novelty does ware off and i like to settle with one i like the most and have spend some quality time with them. It can be really fun to learn how they live and to be shown around and do tourist type stuff that you mite not usually do.
Staying with one more than a few days does complicate life and makes it that much more harder to leave.

 

[monicaMuffin-la]

What kind of lives or relationships you guys must have had ?!?!?!

I have been with many many great girls.. The vast majority who wanted a life outside of the bars, and to find someone who could give them some stability. Sure theres the obvious hard cases, they can be fun too just watch out. But in the main theres plenty out there that want to be GF not just the experience.

 

[Jas]

This is true, but for me it is a part of what makes a short holiday to Thailand unique (and fun and challenging) compared with anywhere else I have been to!

 

[iloveuchriscolfer]

My initial post was just a little "tough love" to a seemingly newbie.

In regards to your question here, it would take me many pages to point out my perspective. Let's just say at this point... various ones.

I do not want to draw any attenton away from the OP, but it kinda was a juniour question... and it all goes back to the critical mass of men wanting to spread their seed to ensure the human race continued on, and... the woman's desire to ensure a home for the children he then produced...even if in many homes to many different woman.

Call me a caveman if you want, but studies will prove my point for what it is worth....

A man's ability to overcome their natural tendency to "mate" with as many women as possible is somehow determined to be civilized.... but at the same time... those "claiming they do so" often go astray...

Human nature....

 

[Elmer]

Oh yes he has!

 

[Lila]

you know , deap inside me is a mongrl .. i think as soon as i drop my bags at the hotel im gonna be the worst kind ever .. heheh

 

[Ur Hunny]

Some girls I want to Fcuk and forget and others I want to keep :love3:

 

[U.S.Veteran]

Never forget ... memories, memories ... memories.

 

[pandarifficness]

I have heard some bar girls say that.

 

[Jessykabeth]

Have to agree with Nicke here first 5 or 6 trips to LOS Full on Mongering now I have found a companion and am happy with her:^^: Still like to go for the odd mongering night out though only human5555:

 

[Dr. Ernest J Folk]

Take your pick ...

What are the most common types of personality disorders?

Generally, personality disorders are divided into three subtypes (or clusters), and include:

* Subtype Classification

Cluster A: odd/eccentric
Cluster B: dramatic/erratic
Cluster C: anxious/inhibited

Examples of odd/eccentric (Cluster A) personality disorders:

* paranoid personality disorder
Persons with this disorder are often cold, distant, and unable to form close, interpersonal relationshipsmongers. Often overly, yet unjustifiably, suspicious of their surroundings, persons with paranoid personality disorder generally cannot see their role in conflict situations and often project their feelings of paranoia as anger onto others.

* schizoid personality disorder
Persons with this disorder are often cold, distant, introverted, and have an intense fear of intimacy and closenessmongers. Persons with schizoid personality disorder are often too absorbed in their own thinking and daydreaming that they exclude themselves from attachment with persons and reality.

* schizotypal personality disorder
Similar to schizoid personality disorder, persons with this disorder are often cold, distant, introverted, and have an intense fear of intimacy and closenessmongers. Yet, with schizotypal personality disorder, persons also exhibit disordered thinking, perception, and ineffective communication skills. Many symptoms of schizotypal personality disorder resemble schizophrenia, but are less mild and intrusive.

Examples of dramatic/erratic (Cluster B) personality disorders:

* borderline personality disorder
Persons with this disorder present instability in their perceptions of themselves, and have difficulty maintaining stable relationshipsmongers. Moods may also be inconsistent, but never neutral -- their sense of reality is always seen in "black and white." Persons with borderline personality disorder often feel as though they lacked a certain level of nurturing while growing up and, as a result, incessantly seek a higher level of caretaking from others as adults. This may be achieved through manipulation of others, leaving them often feeling empty, angry, and abandoned, which may lead to desperate and impulsive behavior.

* antisocial personality disorder
Persons with this disorder characteristically disregard the feelings, property, authority, and respect of others, for their own personal gainmongers. This may include violent or aggressive acts involving or targeting other individuals, without a sense or remorse or guilt for any of their destructive actions.

* narcissistic personality disorder
Persons with this disorder present severely overly-inflated feelings of self-worth, grandiosity, and superiority over others. Persons with narcissistic personality disorder often exploit others who fail to admire them, and are overly sensitive to criticism, judgement, and defeat.mongers/but want & crave GFE (a certain BM comes to mind here)

* histrionic personality disorder
Persons with this disorder are overly conscious of their appearance, are constantly seeking attention, and often behave dramatically in situations that do not warrant this type of reaction. The emotional expressions of persons with histrionic personality disorder are often judged as superficial and exaggerated. GFE - seeking praise and adulation - maybe monger is search of perfect attention giver

Examples of anxious/inhibited (Cluster C) personality disorders:

* dependent personality disorder
Persons with this disorder rely heavily on others for validation and fulfillment of basic needs.GFE Often unable to properly care for themselves, persons with dependent personality disorder lack self confidence and security, and are deficient in making decisions.

* avoidant personality disorder
Persons with this disorder are hypersensitive to rejection and thus, avoid situations with any potential for conflict. This reaction is fear-driven, however, persons with avoidant personality disorder become disturbed by their own social isolation, withdrawal, and inability to form close, interpersonal relationships.seek GFE but probably idolise mongers

* obsessive-compulsive personality disorder
Persons with this disorder are inflexible to change and bothered by a disrupted routine due to their obsession for order. Thus, they experience anxiety and have trouble completing tasks and making decisions. Persons with obsessive-compulsive personality disorder often become uncomfortable in situations that are beyond their control and have difficulty maintaining positive, healthy interpersonal relationships as a result. mongers

Source: Personality Disorders: UI Behavioral Health: University of Iowa Health Care

OK - posted in jest - but seriously a very high % of single guys coming to LOS are not in peak psycholocical condition.

 

[pr0carbine]

I was never as bad as Denver but, I mongered a tad........

I blame Dodger for that, he taught me.

Im settled with my skinny Issan (at last I have been since Sept last and lived with her since December, not a great deal of time but on going).

So mongerererer or Dfer?? Nicke has it spot on and lil adds a realistic dimension.

One things for sure, Im not an out and out no standards fat slapper, like some Rochdale bloke with a mate whose name I will not utter for fear of Dawsey editing the post:rules: