I hear you.If your question is generic, then it will always depend on the girl. Typically though petting/groping availability should be expected. YMMV.
FIV or FIA will definitely be more variable, even unavailable. I hate when I discover that, however I cannot say I necessarily blame some girls for reluctance in that regard. Especially on a first encounter.
First time with a new lady can be frustrating .
Time improves chances.