Chat 'Breaking up' with a fave is hard to do...

[bluejay89]

I don't think u=right...

After that much stuff 2gether, pretty sure sex = about connection as much as $$$...

I've had faves lose other appmnts 2b w me, reschedule apptmnts 2 spend more time together... & buy me dinner... not cos me=handsome or rich... just about our connection, how I make her feel...

...& kl is deeper in2 it then me...

... & I barely think of them outside spa, unless I schedule it... Im really kinda bad guy....

... not like kl or @Caliguy...

Exactly my point, you might not be handsome and rich as you said, but definitely filling that void or missed feel. Nothing wrong with that as long as there is no drama just like he is having now.

 

[OG_funguy]

goodpoint. Polygamy and hoeing is not the same. After reading the texts I’m not sure kl actually had a real relationship with her. Seemed like they were friends that hung out and was wondering if they were actually anything. Seems like she pulled away when he wanted to get more serious.

I you going to date an mpa you should probably be seeing other people. Nothing keeps a woman in check knowing that you are desired by others. Doesn’t work the other way around though, like the more I think about how much dick she sucked I instantly get turned off especially considering she is likely repulsed by said clients.

Well for what it's worth, she didn't pull away and I didn't want to get more serious (not even sure how you came to that conclusion)...

 

[Toomanymiles]

Well for what it's worth, she didn't pull away and I didn't want to get more serious (not even sure how you came to that conclusion)...

I assumed from all the information given to me. I don’t know the whole story bro. It always sucks to lose a connection though. Sorry for my insensitivity likely a coping mechanism from previous life experience. I’m not sure if I will ever truly relate to your experience because I’m not gonna lie, the fact they are mpas bother me and I like to keep them at a distance (like most).

 

[karlcox]

I’ve got a regular that I’ve been seeing for a maybe 6 months now. Works at a spa where girls aren’t allowed to do extras, but we do BBFS CIP every time. Last week she told me that she would love to do that outside of the spa, in a bed where we can make noise and not worry about time. She’s hot as hell and I’m tempted, but I don’t think it would be a good idea.

 

[xtc27]

Exactly my point, you might not be handsome and rich as you said, but definitely filling that void or missed feel. Nothing wrong with that as long as there is no drama just like he is having now.

Well, sh!t happens, no matter how u plan....

...my bike... gr8 tires... always high pressure... watch carefully where I go... & even pull broken glass outta treads w/o getting a flat...
... but sometimes, I still get a flat tire... ...& still p!sses me off...

Best way 2 avoid a flat? Don't bike.

Similarly, e-z 2 avoid drama.... don't get involved... but that's no fun!

 

[OG_funguy]

I assumed from all the information given to me. I don’t know the whole story bro. It always sucks to lose a connection though. Sorry for my insensitivity likely a coping mechanism from previous life experience. I’m not sure if I will ever truly relate to your experience because I’m not gonna lie, the fact they are mpas bother me.

I hear you regarding their "profession". Just keep in mind there are different spectrums of spas and MPAs. Believe it or not, not all fuck and suck for a living

Some of you hard core fs guys should really visit a popular semi legit spa one of these days. Go somewhere like JR, Lotus, Serene, etc. Go in there and try to get fs or bj...good luck with that. But it is for precisely the reason you said that I try to avoid the fs (i.e. holistic) places. I also don't want to be with an MPA that just did fs or bj with a bunch of guys.

 

[Toomanymiles]

I hear you regarding their "profession". Just keep in mind there are different spectrums of spas and MPAs. Believe it or not, not all fuck and suck for a living

Some of you hard core fs guys should really visit a popular semi legit spa one of these days. Go somewhere like JR, Lotus, Serene, etc. Go in there and try to get fs or bj...good luck with that. But it is for precisely the reason you said that I try to avoid the fs (i.e. holistic) places. I also don't want to be with an MPA that just did fs or bj with a bunch of guys.

well then you were dating a semi-whore than not a full fledged one. I can better understand your logic now as I assumed you actually dated a hooker. Never been to semi legit. But I might, I realized I actually like a good massage before a HE.

 

[xtc27]

I hear you regarding their "profession". Just keep in mind there are different spectrums of spas and MPAs. Believe it or not, not all fuck and suck for a living

Some of you hard core fs guys should really visit a popular semi legit spa one of these days. Go somewhere like JR, Lotus, Serene, etc. Go in there and try to get fs or bj...good luck with that. But it is for precisely the reason you said that I try to avoid the fs (i.e. holistic) places. I also don't want to be with an MPA that just did fs or bj with a bunch of guys.

"“You underestimate the power of the Dark Side. If you will not fight, then you will meet your destiny.”

 

[big.sleeze]

Y’all niggas srsly think these hoes actually feel a connection to anything other than your money? I’m surprised theres so many niggas simping over these hoes fr

 

[Old No. 7]

Breaking up is hard to do

 

[xtc27]

Breaking up is hard to do

Nice 2c someone else having some fun... few gloomy angry guys in this thread... not KL, he's coping...

 

[hectorc]

sorry to hear that. I know how it is and how you feel. But I just remember at the end of the day, she is treating me like she is treating all over men. And I am paying.

 

[hangul99]

sorry to hear that. I know how it is and how you feel. But I just remember at the end of the day, she is treating me like she is treating all over men. And I am paying.

But in some cases there is no exchange of money. Ive been in situations where I've been invited out for lunch or dinner and then back to the girls house to hang out and a little fun. No money involved. I paid for the meal most times. On some occasions they would not even let me pay.

Sometimes the girl is lonely and just wants company outside of the spa and to be treated like a regular women and not a MPA.

 

[Barney_B]

I wasn't sure whether to post this or not but decided to do it in hopes of hearing from others that may have had similar experiences (a form of therapy I guess).

Anyways, I've been feeling down these days and it's because I've recently parted ways with one of my faves. I see lots of MPAs but my faves are special to me because there is a strong emotional connection, in addition to the physical attraction. I haven't posted about my faves in a long time because I've come to realize that most guys have a certain view of MPAs based on their own experiences and often extend that view to 'all' MPAs. I can understand this but have seen enough MPAs to know they aren't all the same.

The fave I'm referring to here is honestly the best MPA I have ever met and I don't say this lightly. If she opens her heart to you, there's nothing she won't do for you. I have known her for a couple of years but in the last year or so we got really close. I have seen her outside the spa countless times doing stuff that normal couples would do.

As we got closer, she started to ask questions about our "relationship". As much as I liked her, I knew a BF/GF relationship was not in the cards so I answered as honestly as I could. Little did I know, she was actually testing me. Well, I failed the test and it opened the door to another guy. I have known about him for a long time and knew she had feelings for him too but it never really bothered me before. For whatever reason, it bothers me now. We got in a fight and long story short, I told her I would not see her again. She still cares for me a lot and doesn't want us to "break up" but there's too much emotions going on now.

For anyone thinking of getting really close to an MPA, just think long and hard about it first. The rewards are great, I can't deny that. But there will always be someone that comes along that's more charming, better looking, more successful, more devoted...you get the idea. If you are the jealous type, don't even bother.


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Eesh, tried to catch up to this thread; however lots of hate for the ladies. Don't wish to pass judgement on their line of work and reasoning. And what does this say about someone like me who will give a random stranger money for sex. What baggage am I carrying.

I leaned the hardway. I can like a sp or escort and may enjoy their company in addition to sex. But once I feel that I was wronged or taken advantage, I move on. I don't even give a reason. Just stop booking and calling. Hence not going back to seeing Leonna.

I try to keep it as a business transaction. It works for me.

 

[metroman]

I’ve got a regular that I’ve been seeing for a maybe 6 months now. Works at a spa where girls aren’t allowed to do extras, but we do BBFS CIP every time. Last week she told me that she would love to do that outside of the spa, in a bed where we can make noise and not worry about time. She’s hot as hell and I’m tempted, but I don’t think it would be a good idea.

Find out if she wants to charge you for this or not. Most likely she does this with others and sees others outside the spa to make more money.

 

[OG_funguy]

We don't normally see MPAs with the intent of building a "relationship" but sometimes it just happens. Not necessarily driven by either person. Visits at the spa start to feel different. Then you start, like you said, to do things together outside the spa.
Again, not really targeting a specific type of relationship, but things develop.
But, along the way you both probably know deep down that there isn't really a future for the relationship.
The practicality of the situation doesn't make it any easier to give up on the feelings that have developed.
Like Hangul said, at some point you realize one of you can't give what the other person wants of needs.

Contrary to BS's BS, not all MPAs are horrible people.
I've met a number of wonderful ladies through this hobby.
Stay in touch with many who are retired.
And all with no regrets.

Although it's tough to move on, you'll be fine.
Another will steal your heart soon enough.
And if that doesn't happen, you'll likely have a lot of fun interviewing new candidates.

Great post...

 

[OG_funguy]

Eesh, tried to catch up to this thread; however lots of hate for the ladies. Don't wish to pass judgement on their line of work and reasoning. And what does this say about someone like me who will give a random stranger money for sex. What baggage am I carrying.

I leaned the hardway. I can like a sp or escort and may enjoy their company in addition to sex. But once I feel that I was wronged or taken advantage, I move on. I don't even give a reason. Just stop booking and calling. Hence not going back to seeing Leonna.

I try to keep it as a business transaction. It works for me.

I've seen your past threads and glad you found the approach that works for you.

Most of the time I also keep it business but every now and then, you just connect with an MPA. Personally, I find it much more rewarding to connect with them on a different level but to each their own...

 

[metroman]

It is possible to be friends with MPAs outside the spa. I'm friends with a form spa worker who has retired. We are just friends that keep in touch once in a while and have lunch a couple times a year. We went on 1 date years ago when she worked at the spa, it didn't work out, but have kept in touch. It wasn't a money thing just at different stages in life.

Going back to the original post. If you don't see yourself dating this girl then move on, getting stuck in this kind of situation can be exciting and keep you locked into a cycle for years. If you want a relationship with someone you have to decide if she is the one. If not move on. If you are just having a good time and enjoying what you have, good on you!

 

[karlcox]

Find out if she wants to charge you for this or not. Most likely she does this with others and sees others outside the spa to make more money.

I don’t even tip her in the spa, so I doubt she would be expecting money. Tempting, but I still don’t think I’ll do it.

 

[xtc27]

I don’t even tip her in the spa, so I doubt she would be expecting money. Tempting, but I still don’t think I’ll do it.

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