Chat Does my favourite MPA like me or not???

[OG_funguy]

Some quick background. I've seen many MPAs in the past, almost all work at semi-legit places. I'm really drawn to one in particular and have very strong feelings for her (I've been seeing her almost every week for the last couple of years). By all accounts, she is very average looking and most guys here would not even look twice at her. She's Asian, probably mid to late 40's (she won't tell me her age) and very traditional. Despite the profession she's in, she's actually quite inexperienced sexually (yes, I know this is hard to believe). In any event, I'm not drawn to her because of anything sexual related (even her massage is not that good LOL). Anyways, I know a lot of you have experience from being in similar situations so based on the facts below, please let me know if you think she has genuine feelings for me or if she is playing me just so I continue to see her.

Reasons why she might actually like me:

• She has told me many times that she has strong feelings towards me (I'm not naive and can usually tell if someone is genuine or not).
• Our sessions are very intimate and include both passionate and tender kissing as well as cuddling. We also have pretty deep conversations.
• No surprise here but she tells me that we do things that she doesn't do with anyone else (in case you're wondering this doesn't include FS or even BJ).
• I know her real name and birthday (in case this actually matters).
• We've gone out once and she insisted on paying for the venue. At the venue, there were many people that know her. I mean the "real" her, they have no idea she is an MPA. We had a great time together and no, there was no fooling around at all.
• She does nice things for me, for example sometimes after our session has ended, we'll just sit around and she'll feed me fruit or something.
• We chat regularly via IM and sometimes live so yes, I do have her number (and she claims I'm the only customer that has it).
• I asked for and she sent me photos of her younger self. She grew up in China without digital cameras so these are actually pictures of pictures.
• I don't tip her anything above the norm; when I do try to tip her more, she refuses.
• I've offered to buy her small things and she refuses.

Reasons why she might just be playing with me:

• Mixed messages. She knows I'm falling for her (yes, I'm breaking the golden rule) and basically encourages me to see other MPAs but then she'll send me a message saying she's afraid to lose me. Then a week later, she'll say not to see other MPAs. The constant back & forth is confusing.
• This is the big one. Except for the one time we went out, she has not agreed to go out again (except for her birthday which is coming up). When I ask why, she can't really offer up a good reason and avoids the topic. Now, she does know I'm married so that could be it (she has said before that if I was single, she would definitely date me). But if this was the case, why did she even go out with me that one time. Also, I recently asked again if it was because I'm married and she said no.
• So basically the only time I see her is during our paid sessions.

Sorry for the long post but I really would like to get your guys thoughts on this. Thanks.

 

[altaguetta]

She likes you but you're married and that's why she doesn't do more.

 

[latin85]

Not sure why you asking a simple question.Is obvious she likes you as well as she might like others and there is no reason for her to make a move since she knows you married and you go to see her every week.
Now that you know she likes you; the question for you is; what is your next move?

 

[gottahobby]

I agree that what's stopping her is the fact that you're married.

So would you leave your wife and family for her if you were convinced she loves you and would want to be your "significant other"? Would she stop being an MPA in that circumstance?

 

[TheKWguy]

Ask yourself what the point of being a MPA is? money.

You give her steady money and your not abusive. Why wouldnt she see you?

Men are from mars and women are from venus. MPA are from pluto. You can’t even guess what they really feel.

Fuck her a few times and dont waste either of your time. Does anyone ever think your helping anyone except yourself?

We all selfish, lets not pretend to be anything but that. She wants your money from an easy client. Thats it.

 

[LazyBoy]

She likes you but it's still about the money for her and it's about the fantasy for you.

 

[OG_funguy]

Thanks for the replies so far. To answer some of the questions, my next move is in fact trying to get to know her better outside of the MP but that's the issue (she's resisting). Regarding leaving my family...no, I don't think that's in the cards right now but again, it's impossible to say because we're not progressing any further with our relationship. In terms of sex, of course I've brought it up and her response is "maybe one day...". I don't push for this though and only bring it up occasionally.

 

[Old No. 7]

She may also be married or with a SO.
Many of the Asian MPs are attached.
She may actually like you but may be conflicted with how to deal with a relationship/affair.

 

[OG_funguy]

She may also be married or with a SO.
Many of the Asian MPs are attached.
She may actually like you but may be conflicted with how to deal with a relationship/affair.

Good point. She told me she's divorced and her ex is in China (but you never know I guess). She's been here for many many years so if she is still married, that's an awful long time to be apart. She also told me she has no SO. I basically know her whole weekly schedule including what she does on her days off (not in a stalking sense but after a couple of years you get to know someone quite well). Plus, I've been to the place where she spends most of her off time and since we often chat late into the evening, I'm quite certain she doesn't have a SO. Also, she knows I'm married so has no reason to lie if that was the case for her as well.

 

[OG_funguy]

She likes you but it's still about the money for her and it's about the fantasy for you.

I think you're ultimately right about the fantasy part but man, I do think about her a lot and want to be with her all the time. Again, she's not my first rodeo but I've never even come close to feeling this way. Btw, from other posts I've read, many guys suggest adding a couple of girls to their rotation to avoid getting hurt. If you've read some of my recent posts, that's exactly what I've been doing. I've tried to see her every other week and another girl on alternating weeks but I just end up seeing her every week anyways LOL. So yes, branching out to new girls is getting expensive.

 

[Pais007]

Some quick background. I've seen many MPAs in the past, almost all work at semi-legit places. I'm really drawn to one in particular and have very strong feelings for her (I've been seeing her almost every week for the last couple of years). By all accounts, she is very average looking and most guys here would not even look twice at her. She's Asian, probably mid to late 40's (she won't tell me her age) and very traditional. For what it's worth, I'm Asian too but I grew up here all my life so definitely have a different upbringing than her. Despite the profession she's in, she's actually quite inexperienced sexually (yes, I know this is hard to believe). In any event, I'm not drawn to her because of anything sexual related (even her massage is not that good LOL). Anyways, I know a lot of you have experience from being in similar situations so based on the facts below, please let me know if you think she has genuine feelings for me or if she is playing me just so I continue to see her.

Reasons why she might actually like me:

• She has told me many times that she has strong feelings towards me (I'm not naive and can usually tell if someone is genuine or not and I definitely don't think she's lying).
• Our sessions are very intimate and include both passionate and tender kissing as well as cuddling. We also have pretty deep conversations.
• No surprise here but she tells me that we do things that she doesn't do with anyone else (in case you're wondering this doesn't include FS or even BJ).
• I know her real name and birthday (in case this actually matters).
• We've gone out once and she insisted on paying for the venue. At the venue, there were many people that know her. I mean the "real" her, they have no idea she is an MPA. We had a great time together and no, there was no fooling around at all.
• She does nice things for me, for example sometimes after our session has ended, we'll just sit around and she'll feed me fruit or something.
• We chat regularly via IM so yes, I do have her number (and she claims I'm the only customer that has it)
• I don't tip her anything above the norm; when I do try to tip her more, she refuses.
• I've offered to buy her small things and she refuses.

Reasons why she might just be playing with me:

• Mixed messages. She knows I'm falling for her (yes, I'm breaking the golden rule) and basically encourages me to see other MPAs but then she'll send me a message saying she's afraid to lose me. Then a week later, she'll say not to see other MPAs. The constant back & forth is confusing.
• This is the big one. Except for the one time we went out, she has not agreed to go out again (except for her birthday which is coming up). When I ask why, she can't really offer up a good reason and avoids the topic. Now, she does know I'm married so that could be it (she has said before that if I was single, she would definitely date me). But if this was the case, why did she even go out with me that one time. Also, I recently asked again if it was because I'm married and she said no.
• So basically the only time I see her is during our paid sessions.

Sorry for the long post but I really would like to get your guys thoughts on this. Thanks.

 

[Pais007]

Been there. I was seeing a lady for sometime
We shared everything pictures of each other family
To texting or phone calls.
Been to her house and went for dinner lots of times she worked at a no fs spa but I got fs
When she retired I got blocked on all forms of communication. Lesson learned don’t get attached to the ladies have fun but they are only there to make money and hope you come back. What ever you decide I hope it works out for you

 

[Greenberg]

My friend, falling in love is a wonderful feeling but it also misguides our senses. Nonetheless, there’s no right or wrong here; and there’s no need to beg the question. If you truly love her, tell her that you’re leaving your family for her and see how she reacts. Even a rose can grow on a dung hill!

 

[bumzbumz]

she likes your money

don't bother

 

[TheKWguy]

Been there. I was seeing a lady for sometime
We shared everything pictures of each other family
To texting or phone calls.
Been to her house and went for dinner lots of times she worked at a no fs spa but I got fs
When she retired I got blocked on all forms of communication. Lesson learned don’t get attached to the ladies have fun but they are only there to make money and hope you come back. What ever you decide I hope it works out for you

Yep +1

 

[Homerun001]

Thanks for the replies so far. To answer some of the questions, my next move is in fact trying to get to know her better outside of the MP but that's the issue (she's resisting). Regarding leaving my family...no, I don't think that's in the cards right now but again, it's impossible to say because we're not progressing any further with our relationship. In terms of sex, of course I've brought it up and her response is "maybe one day...". I don't push for this though and only bring it up occasionally. I do bring protection whenever I see her in case one of these days, it actually happens (she doesn't know I do this).

It is way too complicated and stressful for a single guy to get involved outside the spa with an MPA, who is currently working in the biz unless you like sharing her with other men, and can handle that short and long term, add the fact that you are married etc, would just complicate your life to the max for the unknown. Enjoy the fantasy, service, sweet talks, etc at the spa and go home to your family afterwards. If you have the good fortune of going to a MPA'S home, dinner, movie, enjoy the ride.

 

[L84dinner]

I agree that what's stopping her is the fact that you're married.

So would you leave your wife and family for her if you were convinced she loves you and would want to be your "significant other"? Would she stop being an MPA in that circumstance?

I've been down this road a couple times with industry girls; most times it was encounters as friends and also the sexual benefits of loving each other outside of the client/MPA relationship.

With one girl it was real and more than just fun and companionship. All relationships are different, but for my situation when I was single it was still emotionally taxing. Even after she quit the industry, there are trust issues on both sides; this after meeting each other's families. I can't imagine doing this in a serious relationship, let alone being married.

My advice to the OP would be to tread slowly and carefully. Unless you see yourself changing significant others and dealing with the aftermath, keep the relationship inside the spa. Every person is different but I would advise against getting involved with an industry girl with the hopes of her being a significant other.

The best thing you can do is to turn it into a temporary FWB situation then friendzone yourself.

 

[rhbro]

You tried to tip more, she refused. You then tried to buy her gifts, she refused again.
Doesn't seem to be a gold-digger to me.
Maybe it's because she knew you are married and doesn't see a future in you two.

 

[OG_funguy]

Been there. I was seeing a lady for sometime
We shared everything pictures of each other family
To texting or phone calls.
Been to her house and went for dinner lots of times she worked at a no fs spa but I got fs
When she retired I got blocked on all forms of communication. Lesson learned don’t get attached to the ladies have fun but they are only there to make money and hope you come back. What ever you decide I hope it works out for you

Thanks for the advice, that must have hurt a lot. I actually remember reading your story and I was going to tell my sweetie that if she ever found someone else, just have the courtesy to tell me and don't suddenly just disappear with no explanation whatsoever.

 

[OG_funguy]

I've been down this road a couple times with industry girls; most times it was encounters as friends and also the sexual benefits of loving each other outside of the client/MPA relationship.

With one girl it was real and more than just fun and companionship. All relationships are different, but for my situation when I was single it was still emotionally taxing. Even after she quit the industry, there are trust issues on both sides; this after meeting each other's families. I can't imagine doing this in a serious relationship, let alone being married.

My advice to the OP would be to tread slowly and carefully. Unless you see yourself changing significant others and dealing with the aftermath, keep the relationship inside the spa. Every person is different but I would advise against getting involved with an industry girl with the hopes of her being a significant other.

The best thing you can do is to turn it into a temporary FWB situation then friendzone yourself.

Thanks, your advice is very rational. If I were single, I think everything would have worked out. Just knowing what I know, she's very low mileage (only HJs) so I wouldn't have the trust issues. There are no reviews on her or the places she works at on this forum (I've checked). She just doesn't stand out or put out enough to be anyone's favorite or regular. I just happened to click with her emotionally, that's all.