Poll Have you ever broken up with and subsequently made up with a favorite SW?

[startbeforeIfinish]

That actually makes sense in the case of optimists. A pessimist will give up easily, move on, not look back. An optimist, after a period of time, will remember what he liked about an SW. A nuisance goes back too soon. I am by nature a cautious optimist.

I've had a couple regulars that I have no need for their services anymore. At first they rock your world that"s why you stay. Then they pair back services as well as showing all their warts. They aint gonna rock my world again. For them it was the only win I had in a long time that I said no more. I'm not so foolish anymore.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

I've had a couple regulars that I have no need for their services anymore. At first they rock your world that"s why you stay. Then they pair back services as well as showing all their warts. They aint gonna rock my world again. For them it was the only win I had in a long time that I said no more. I'm not so foolish anymore.

I had one regular, who I really like, but the services remained the same, no progress. It got boring. A pity, because we had great conversations. And I am too polite to ask her to up her game. But that is really not what this thread is about. If you stay in the game long enough you find SWs who you really connect with, and you enjoy your time with them on multiple levels. "In spa" romance. But mistakes happen, feelings get hurt or the "relationship" runs its' course.

 

[startbeforeIfinish]

I had one regular, who I really like, but the services remained the same, no progress. It got boring. A pity, because we had great conversations. And I am too polite to ask her to up her game. But that is really not what this thread is about. If you stay in the game long enough you find SWs who you really connect with, and you enjoy your time with them on multiple levels. "In spa" romance. But mistakes happen, feelings get hurt or the "relationship" runs its' course.

It can be said there is is a relationship but there is a chunk of change going to services and it's disrespectful to deny them. My girl who I made up quite quickly and it was over. Her services are rock solid but that is not the only thing with her she is a good person and I promised not to get mad again like before. Even if I didn't love her the services a great quid pro quo. Not being too much of a fool for love.

 

[Flatulent Fox]

If she has blocked you, he should not care about her feeling for seeing another SP in the same condo. She said she did not owe you anything. Neither do you. Just let her know how you enjoy the time with her roommate SP.

I don't care if she knows I'm seeing other people. I just don't want to run into her and have her start yapping at me over some bullshit that she started in the first place.

 

[Social-Misfit]

Only one, scary part is she was legit not spa girl. Both of us fell for each other, big way, I ended it cause the future ain't always brite enough to wear shades.

 

[Flyingfox]

When I went out with this semi girl a few years ago, we both know there would be no future about us. We also agreed not to bad mouth each other when we ended it. After half of a year, I found out she was fucking other men for a brighter future, I guess. I broke up with her a few times but she did not let go. I did not respond to her messages and she came to my house in an evening waiting for me to come out to see her. What a big mess. Avoiding to make the situation worst, I made up with her and thought that I shall let her to dump me instead.

I changed my attitude and did not treat her like a girl friend. Of course, she sensed that. We had a lot of arguments since then. Maybe she has finally found her future and texted me saying that I did not need to see her for a massage. Prior to that she was mad if I saw other girls for a massage. That was it for us. I felt what a big relief because it did not end up with a drama causing any effect on my family.

But looking back our dating days, I found they were very sweet and memorable. She revived my passion for a relationship - I planned for our dates and prepared things to please the girl. It sounded like I repeated my high school days courting girls. It was fun but expensive (we once went for a four-day trip out of the country). She told me about her ex-boyfriends and ex-husband and claimed that she was truthful to every relationship which never lasted long. I wish her well in maintaining the current relationship.

 

[UsefulIdiot]

When I went out with this semi girl a few years ago, we both know there would be no future about us. We also agreed not to bad mouth each other when we ended it. After half of a year, I found out she was fucking other men for a brighter future, I guess. I broke up with her a few times but she did not let go. I did not respond to her messages and she came to my house in an evening waiting for me to come out to see her. What a big mess. Avoiding to make the situation worst, I made up with her and thought that I shall let her to dump me instead.

I changed my attitude and did not treat her like a girl friend. Of course, she sensed that. We had a lot of arguments since then. Maybe she has finally found her future and texted me saying that I did not need to see her for a massage. Prior to that she was mad if I saw other girls for a massage. That was it for us. I felt what a big relief because it did not end up with a drama causing any effect on my family.

But looking back our dating days, I found they were very sweet and memorable. She revived my passion for a relationship - I planned for our dates and prepared things to please the girl. It sounded like I repeated my high school days courting girls. It was fun but expensive (we once went for a four-day trip out of the country). She told me about her ex-boyfriends and ex-husband and claimed that she was truthful to every relationship which never lasted long. I wish her well in maintaining the current relationship.

Quiet quitting a relationship. I have done that with a civilian. I fell in love with her and then fell out of love with her. I did not want to hurt her so I checked out emotionally until she ended things. I was never so happy to be dumped!

 

[Social-Misfit]

Most of us on here are a strange bunch, the married/involved ones that is. Single guys, fuck away it's an easier way to date in my opinion.
I've tried on several occasions to diagnose my behavior, seriously even spent time on a therapists couch but to no avail, even though I'm attached, I find this amusing yet sexual in so many ways it's hard to stop.
I obviously have issues like most of us who are with significant others but I can't seem to do anything about it, or care for that matter. Doesn't speak much for the state of unions between two people anymore

 

[Social-Misfit]

I don't care if she knows I'm seeing other people. I just don't want to run into her and have her start yapping at me over some bullshit that she started in the first place.

I don't care if she knows I'm seeing other people. I just don't want to run into her and have her start yapping at me over some bullshit that she started in the first place.

One my biggest fears as well

 

[Liaable]

Most of us on here are a strange bunch, the married/involved ones that is. Single guys, fuck away it's an easier way to date in my opinion.
I've tried on several occasions to diagnose my behavior, seriously even spent time on a therapists couch but to no avail, even though I'm attached, I find this amusing yet sexual in so many ways it's hard to stop.
I obviously have issues like most of us who are with significant others but I can't seem to do anything about it, or care for that matter. Doesn't speak much for the state of unions between two people anymore

How did therapy go? I had intake another day and appt is coming up soon... let's see if she can give me life-changing advice before i burn down something..

 

[Social-Misfit]

How did therapy go? I had intake another day and appt is coming up soon... let's see if she can give me life-changing advice before i burn down something..

I'm still going, we'll took a break for awhile then started back up. To be honest, and simply, according to her, yeah it's a her, I need to grow fuck up and get my dick/priorities straight.
I've burnt things down dude, longtime ago but it so wasn't worth it, do yer best to avoid that if u can

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Most of us on here are a strange bunch, the married/involved ones that is. Single guys, fuck away it's an easier way to date in my opinion.
I've tried on several occasions to diagnose my behavior, seriously even spent time on a therapists couch but to no avail, even though I'm attached, I find this amusing yet sexual in so many ways it's hard to stop.
I obviously have issues like most of us who are with significant others but I can't seem to do anything about it, or care for that matter. Doesn't speak much for the state of unions between two people anymore

I think you need to decide what it is that you want. Be honest with yourself. Perhaps you have unfulfilled needs that your spouse should know about. She might come around, or not (mine didn't), but she should have the chance.

 

[Spawarrior99]

I, and at least a few others here, have gotten close to an SW, then had a falling out or cooling off, but then started seeing them again few months to a year later with re-ignited interest and past sins forgiven. I wonder how common this is?

Yeah, I've had a few breakups as you say. 1 more recenttly but ore the fact that she is who she is and I am I. Respect for her and respect for all the spa girls as they gives a certain 1 hour window,
to indulge our needs. Very good at what they do, some, almost GOD like.in their skill set...
But those breakups, uggggg..
Most of the time, the breakup was there before we and reality could XXX certain.

 

[xtc27]

I, and at least a few others here, have gotten close to an SW, then had a falling out or cooling off, but then started seeing them again few months to a year later with re-ignited interest and past sins forgiven. I wonder how common this is?

Can we include semilegit mpas in this?

… u gotta no they don’t consider themselves SW….

 

[UsefulIdiot]

Can we include semilegit mpas in this?

… u gotta no they don’t consider themselves SW….

If there is intimacy it counts.

 

[Liaable]

Can we include semilegit mpas in this?

… u gotta no they don’t consider themselves SW….

Not sure, i'd consider part of the industry as long as LE can issue tickets for what i've done during my sessions...lol.

not to mention there are too many semi legits offering everything these days..

 

[xtc27]

Not sure, i'd consider part of the industry as long as LE can issue tickets for what i've done during my sessions...lol.

not to mention there are too many semi legits offering everything these days..

Ok, if she’s a semilegit offering everything, obv that counts !

Depending on the spa though, it can b rare… JR, SL, Bellagio, Lavender, Superior Health… a few others … mostly no bj or fs offered… GW use 2b on this list but seems like they’re evolving …

 

[VinnyBulbarino]

Most of us on here are a strange bunch, the married/involved ones that is. Single guys, fuck away it's an easier way to date in my opinion.
I've tried on several occasions to diagnose my behavior, seriously even spent time on a therapists couch but to no avail, even though I'm attached, I find this amusing yet sexual in so many ways it's hard to stop.
I obviously have issues like most of us who are with significant others but I can't seem to do anything about it, or care for that matter. Doesn't speak much for the state of unions between two people anymore

Brother SM, I had the same thoughts and my therapist helped with this and explanation. As men, we are natural born hunters, always looking for the next thing. We can have the perfect woman, but we will still be on the lookout and ready to court the next female that catches our attention. It comes down to discipline to stay faithful. For some men, they also stay faithful because they have alot to lose if their wife finds out (50% of everything plus alimony is deep, lol)

For those of us who hobby, it comes down to what void are we looking to fill. Are we filling a physical need, an emotional one, are we thrill seekers looking for that dopamine fix. Once we determine why we are hobbying, then we can start to remedy it (if it needs to be fixed).

Hope I’m not coming off as preachy/know it all, just wanted to share what I’ve learned so far.

 

[Social-Misfit]

I think you need to decide what it is that you want. Be honest with yourself. Perhaps you have unfulfilled needs that your spouse should know about. She might come around, or not (mine didn't), but she should have the chance.

It's more complicated than that, with me/us, take too long to get into it here, not sure that I'd want to anyway with this bunch. Appreciate the sentiment though...

 

[Social-Misfit]

Brother SM, I had the same thoughts and my therapist helped with this and explanation. As men, we are natural born hunters, always looking for the next thing. We can have the perfect woman, but we will still be on the lookout and ready to court the next female that catches our attention. It comes down to discipline to stay faithful. For some men, they also stay faithful because they have alot to lose if their wife finds out (50% of everything plus alimony is deep, lol)

For those of us who hobby, it comes down to what void are we looking to fill. Are we filling a physical need, an emotional one, are we thrill seekers looking for that dopamine fix. Once we determine why we are hobbying, then we can start to remedy it (if it needs to be fixed).

Hope I’m not coming off as preachy/know it all, just wanted to share what I’ve learned so far.

Always appreciate words of wisdom from u Vinster,
With me it's always been strictly psyhical need, nothing else, able to keep it at that. If I'm getting close to emotional, door closes. not to say I'm not easy going and friendly though