How does one fight against falling in love with your fave MPA?

[a7x2121]

I tried to avoid it but I must weight in here.

Gents, everyoen must think for themselves - no one is anyones mommy here - but come on guy. A man has got to have a little back bone and have his feet firmly planted in REALITY.

Sure we hobby - buts its just for fun and pleasure. Nothing more and certainly nothing less. If you are in this game for more then your crazy.

I read these posts about "I'm in Love" and I think - come on guy.

I realize that a lot of hobbyists are really just lonely unloved men that are lets say not exactly Brad Pitt in the looks department and are resorting to these activities trying to get what they are missing and yearning for love.

Even if that is the case it doesn't mean you should put your back bone and brain away when you hand the $$$ over and whip out Mr Happy.

Treating the ladies with respect and civility and having them be nice in return make for a fun session but it does not exactly make relationship.

Be a "MAN" for gods sake and get over it already. And if you can't then walk - no RUN - away.

Enjoy!

 

[bluebird]

Why is your mom giving you advice on massage parlours.

 

[Santa In Your Panties]

you might be confused sheik, because even if she's still working she left the city.

Paul, I think the problem is the reverse, we aren't thinking deeply enough to realise the idiocy of our thought process towards some of these ladies.

 

[Carla R]

The question is, what do you love--her, or the service?
I'm not sure you can love her without really knowing her outside the confines of the business. Anything said within, may purely be a rouse.
In other words, you might think you love her for who she is when in fact, you just really "lust" for her.

 

[yoma_yomy_yoma]

Ummm didnt anyone read Oh Henry experience?

 

[Lis]

Spend some quality time with a bunch of her clients.

 

[angel619]

that's one cool ass mom!

 

[The Chokey]

If a mpa wants to "hook up" with you she will, if she tells you she cant because you were her client first she is being nice and trying not to hurt your fealings.

 

[kemperk]

Of course I am right, I can see throught all the fancy piksy dust and shiny lights that are clouding your mind.

 

[lotusflower007]

You'll see you're not the only one who's fallen in love with her.

You're not falling in love with her. You're falling in love with the fantasy. You've asked her out already. When she calls you and says she'll take you up on the offer, then you're getting somewhere.

Until then, you're just living in your wet dream.

 

[Veronica Salmon]

Not to belabour the point, but perhaps some lessons can be had.

Just imagine during the session, the two of you clicked, you enjoyed every second of the interactions, whatever they may be. Yes, the appointed time is up, but you received a sweet invite-back. You can actually come again and re-live the pleasurable mements (real or all courtesy of excellent acting seems irrelevant). Some hobbyists might even let their impulse take over - ask the MPA for a date - it just seems such a natural thing to do - reality struck again, time is up, you have to go, a nice warm hug, or a peck on the cheek, or even a kiss but do come back !

It is not unlike when your last cigarette of the carton burned out, it might be "harsh reality", it was something that can be bought. But the yearning is there and you know all you have to do is to drive to the nearest 24-hour store to buy another one.

Obviously some handle the addiction better than others.

 

[RawrRawrDino]

hahaha ROTFLMAO

and then remember that she tells them all the exact same thing! Not as flattering then is it? hehehe

Your Fav MPA: "Uncle Ernie you are such a hunk of burning love I want ONLY you, as only you can satisfy my hunger for huge cock!" ... "I want to gobble down every drop ..."

Now if she is not telling you stuff like that and you initiate asking her out ... stick around with your massageplanet.net buddies here and we will disabuse you of your youthful foolhardiness.

"For love or money" Money is always picked!

PS: To all my massageplanet.net buddies you guys really are all irresistible!

 

[Zane]

Thanks invasionasian but I prefer the ladies.

 

[AVALON]

You actually make a valid point RR. I got it even before the "nicotine" analogy, but that brought it to a new level for me, even though the addiction is somewhat different.

Going back to Sukdeeps insinuation that the right side of the brain says,"she loves me !"; that has never happened to me, that I'm aware of, but on at least one occasion, I've felt this insane urge to say," I love you !". Of course I do not in the real sense of the word ( open to interpretation ), but in the heat of the moment it just felt right somehow.

Not meaning to harp ( oh, of course I mean to ) on the MPA's talking about clients thing, and although I alluded to it before, it occurred to me that we talk about them all the time publicly, here on massageplanet.net, and in private through PM's etc. That doesn't exactly make it right and it's not quite the same. It's just another perspective on the realities involved in the situation.

As for figureheads implication that treating them with respect is a load of shit, if my interpretation is right, and then going on to say it goes both ways. Of course it should go both ways. But how can you expect to earn or maintain respect if you do not show respect. Respect is a continuum and encompasses many things ...

 

[Chilanga]

An interesting perspective, figurehead.

Agreed.

 

[Staci Lancaster]

Don't we all love to live that experience, however short-lived and however artificial it is?

 

[Pompal 09.]

WORD 2 DFK for yet another mega-thread

 

[Pompal 09.]

Sorry invasionasian but I think that thoughts like this are the ones that lead to trouble in the first place.

Statistically these beautiful babes would NEVER be interested in dating us! And truth be told if you really got to know them you probably would not be interested in dating them!

Lets keep it all in the fantasy world. That is why we go in the first place. To have what we cannot get, and if we got it we would then want what we didn't have.

Ask yourself what you are falling in love with. For a shallow monkey like me it is the good looks and awesome bodies and the sexy games that they play. If that all changed would you still love them? The problems we experience is really with us not them.

 

[Pauline]

I think the more interesting question is how do MPA's fight against falling in love with Pool?

Who's da man????................Pool's da man!!!!!!!!

 

[CooCooBananaCrackers!]

I'd like to be licked from head to toe and penetrated in every orifice, please.

Seriously though. A well thought out and insightful summary, Dudenhagen.

Cnd Guy, As a friend and lover, I'd advise you to take serious look into why it is you feel the need to love another person. Generally it is because we don't feel complete as an individual and look for what we lack in a companion. That, combined with the pressure put on us by society to find a mate or we are thought of as abnormal, which is total bollocks. Then of course there the physical instinct, but that has little to do with love.