Holy crap, If you can't find some fun in Patong, you'll never find it anywhere!
A bit of clarification as this thread has wandered all over the map... So are you looking for a happy ending yourself, or are you just looking to get your fellow revved up by having him watch you getting rubbed all over by someone else? If that's the case then most men seem to very much enjoy seeing their partners getting rubbed up by another girl... If your not going to finish it, what difference does it make who does the rubbing? Get a nice pair of girls.
Or, If nobody is going to get finished off, why not start out with a nice little "couples massage" at some place like Bali Hai, and see how you like it... you might be surprised, and you're in no way obliged to take anything to a "higher level". If you absolutely need one male masseur, and one female, that can absolutely be done, but you may need to engage the other participants separately, and have them come to your room. Also you can ask any of the massage girls if they know a male masseuse who they could recommend to take nice care of a lady... Ask around and you'll find it. A lot of the males working in town are happy to go either way, hell half of them are married.
Just be direct, and ask for exactly what you want, I guarantee that with just a little effort you can have it. This is PATONG FFS.
So what EXACTLY are you wanting to do? Be specific.
FWIW, We'll be in Patong for the month of February, if you're in town, and still haven't got it figured out, I'm sure we could point you in the right direction.
Happy Days,
The Easy's