Need Advice...Crush on MPA...?

[OG_funguy]

Yeah for sure, never use my real name or my real #, I just don’t have the time or ability to take it outside the spa regularly. That’s why I rarely repeat, when I do I’ll take as far and as long as possible. Then eventually slowly reduce seeing them until i ultimately stop. I enjoy the thrill of trying to find gems and trying different spas and girls.

When I find a girl I like, I’m the opposite

For the first time ever, I saw one girl 3 times last week…

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

When I find a girl I like, I’m the opposite

First the first time ever, I saw one girl 3 times last week…

3 times in one week? Damn!!! She must be good

 

[OG_funguy]

3 times in one week? Damn!!! She must be good

Better than your fave

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

Better than your fave

You sure about that

 

[OG_funguy]

You sure about that

Trust me, I would know

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

Trust me, I would know

I know you would…now I’m curious

 

[OG_funguy]

I know you would…now I’m curious

Haha, no way…she’s in my fave category now. There’s only around 3-4 in that group and I never talk about them…will gladly share about all other MPAs though (at least with you ).

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

Haha, no way…she’s in my fave category now. There’s only around 3-4 in that group and I never talk about them…will gladly share about all other MPAs though (at least with you ).

Don’t worry wasn’t looking for you to give names, I’ll just spend hours going thru your post to figure out what spas you been hitting up, then go try girls out. Wait who am I kidding, I can’t afford that…

 

[OG_funguy]

Don’t worry wasn’t looking for you to give names, I’ll just spend hours going thru your post to figure out what spas you been hitting up, then go try girls out. Wait who am I kidding, I can’t afford that…

Good luck, I saw her at 3 different spas lol.

Actually your fave is very good too…man, now that we’re talking about her, I need to go see her…it’s been a case of out of sight, out of mind…but she’s one of the best too.

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

Good luck, I saw her at 3 different spas lol.

Actually your fave is very good too…man, now that we’re talking about her, I need to go see her…it’s been a case of out of sight, out of mind…but she’s one of the best too.

She will always be my fav, even if I don’t see her anymore. Haven’t see her in along time, have been tempted to see her a few times lately, but she’s addictive to me so I gotta stay away. When I finally see her again, I’m in trouble. I’ll be hooked again.

 

[DaGMan]

So...when I first started this hobby I swore to myself to not fall for any of the girls that I see and I have seen quite a few since I started. I created a thread awhile ago about conversion and how I would like to go down the rabbit hole and become friends with MPAs. I received numbers from girls but never acted or actually contacted them back or went back to see them again just cause the girls that actually offered me their number, I wasnt really too attracted to them, though they werent bad looking. So fast forward to now and a few weeks to a month ago I see this MPA (I wont name where I saw this girl or name the girl) but dam I think I have a crush on the girl... which I have seen now a hand full of times. Call me an idiot and say what you may but dam I feel what I feel, I know everyone is going to say that the women just want your money and all that which I dont disagree with but dam I am stumped here...

This MPA did offer their number to me the first time I visited them to visit them at another location that they work at but I guess I was in a hurry and didnt take down their number. Since the first visit they havent offered me their number or anything again. I guess Im just wondering and need some serious advice is there a chance to get her number and hang out outside her place of work? For some reason I get the butterflies around her and I dont know really how to proceed with this? Should I just ask her out right for her number and if she wants to grab some drinks or something sometime? I dont want to make this awkward for either of us either... Also a question for guys who get the girls number just to see them again or at another location, is everything you talk about just transactional and all business?

This is not meant to be a joke. When I feel like this, I beat the meat and go out with friends or alone to a bar or club. True story.
Also helps me try and keep MPA visits to once or twice a month max.
Has saved me thousands $$$$$

 

[ctwor]

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[WheresTheJohn]

I have a regular who I have been seeing for years (one or two times in a month) . In the last session she said to me she likes me and asked me if I like her or not. She is so serious not like other spa girls, saying like me in the first session and ask me to be her boy friend / they are so fake and I never take their sayings for real. She also mentioned some good deeds I did to her a few years back. She remembers the details so well. I know she really meant it.

I don’t know how to respond and did not give her a solid answer. She said it is not “love” in a sense that she knows it is not possible. She knows I have an SO at home. I thought if I say yes, will I get more mileage from her? (she is a semi girl). I don’t want to take advantage of her by telling her a lie. Actually, I don’t want to get too close to the girls as expectation will then be built up, I have done this before and it turned out not fun,

Now, I have decided not to see her in the next few months. Maybe I put my head in the sand. I will miss her wonderful massage for a while.

You made the right choice. Like others have said again these women are good for the fun or something short term but anything longer will drain you, mentally, physically and financially. It is interesting to hear everyone’s story though.

 

[Leo44]

Rule #1: Learn from your mistakes .

 

[FatPussyLicker]

I have a regular who I have been seeing for years (one or two times in a month) . In the last session she said to me she likes me and asked me if I like her or not. She is so serious not like other spa girls, saying like me in the first session and ask me to be her boy friend / they are so fake and I never take their sayings for real. She also mentioned some good deeds I did to her a few years back. She remembers the details so well. I know she really meant it.

I don’t know how to respond and did not give her a solid answer. She said it is not “love” in a sense that she knows it is not possible. She knows I have an SO at home. I thought if I say yes, will I get more mileage from her? (she is a semi girl). I don’t want to take advantage of her by telling her a lie. Actually, I don’t want to get too close to the girls as expectation will then be built up, I have done this before and it turned out not fun,

Now, I have decided not to see her in the next few months. Maybe I put my head in the sand. I will miss her wonderful massage for a while.

Next time you find a MPA remembering specific details about you, ask her if she keeps notes and watch how she responds.

These girls see A LOT of men, there's no way for them to remember everything about you, so most usually keep notes on their clients - mainly just the regulars.

 

[Flyingfox]

She has a good memory. She can re-quote my phone number in the next week I gave it to her though she has never called me. I was very impressed.

These girls have good memory. A few years ago, I saw the famous Zoey at Pure once every month for five months. She told me that was my fifth time to see her. I said nothing but “Wow”. But I know she checked my name with the receptionist before entering the room.

 

[TheWhiteShadow]

Rule #1: Learn from your mistakes .

Rule #2 don’t make them again.

 

[xtc27]

Rule #2 don’t make them again.

Rule #3 - When u make the same mistake again, go back #1

 

[latin85]

Hate when they call me baby!
This topic has been discussed a few times and it is actually a good read, but it does have a common denominator No LOVE!!
Could be affection, empathy, liking, etc.
They all have different reasons of why they are doing this job, but their main goal is to make good cash.

They will never tell all the details of her life and lie about some, but a good chunk of them, specially asian ones do it to support their families back home.

When I get close to them and ask the question, why are you doing this job? They will say because the need to make good money and because they really can't see themselves doing other job because of lack of education. Surprisingly majority of them don't even have a high school diploma. Some are divorced (that's what they say) ex not supporting and they grow with the idea that all men are the same except their Dads. Some have still a good heart and haven't turn completely to the dark side, but top dollar is their goal.

I was seeing one mpa from time to time for about 2 years in and out the spa last year, we had a good time the past summer, one day at the spa having a BS, I asked for more and she agreed to put it in and we had a really good session, but at the end of it she could not look me in the eyes and when I said thank you, see you next time she said "I don't want to see you anymore". I know she does BS to others; so I let it rest for few weeks until I reached out to her and say hi and had little convo in which she said she is here working to make money and she knows her limits (semi legit), the convo was going into drama mode, so I told her that I like her and we are good friends, so no need for more, but want to keep the friendship. She agreed and I have cut seeing/talking to her about 70% of what I used to. We have had sex a couple of times since, but I don't dig more into her life because I don't want drama in my life and I told her I just want to enjoy when I see her. I have few other stories but it all comes down to same drama no fun crap.

So be a bit selfish, enjoy and don't turn things into drama. Have options and be friendly with them since they are human.

Cheers,

 

[HugeTrophy]

The question you should be asking is whether or not YOU actually wanna be with her. I had a similar situation...

I was seeing this girl from an agency, she was just my type physically and she seemed to be attracted to me too. I ended up asking her out after a couple sessions and got denied. One thing led to another and after many months and a bunch of drama with her ex's she ended up asking me out. Things were fun but after a while I realized she doesn't really live up to the image of her that I had in my head. Drug addiction, and other goofiness related to that, etc.

I realized in her particular case, I was actually getting the best of her through her appointments. Not to mention all the drama with her ex's. And I ultimately lost that "in love" feeling for her.

Long story short, you may not really know who they are outside the spa. Remember they are in this profession for a reason, usually they're unable to hold down a job due to all kinds of issues (laziness, drug use, etc) which could play a role in your attraction to them as well.