orient longman
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P.S. : I have asked so many Legends to take me out with them to actually see how they become legends. But till now, every one skipped. Donno why???
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Apologies in advance for this long-ass post.
I could be way off base here, but here's my 2 cents anyway:
1) all the legends/seniors started bar mongering on their own and gradually developed friendships with other regular mongers they crossed paths with often. These guys eventually started planned meet-ups with like minded folks. Some of these seniors were very welcoming of newcomers and were great mentors until a few years ago before certain newbies with fragile egos doxxed a few seniors ( in 2018) and messed up the environment for all subsequent newcomers.
IMO you may have already interacted with some of these guys in Natraj, Star Night etc. without knowing they are members here.
In short, don't expect seniors/legends to respond positively to your overtures unless they reach out to you with an invite for a meet-up.
2) from your FRs it is quite evident that you enjoy shaking a leg on English songs. Most mongers go to DBs and OBs to watch the girls of their choice gyrating on songs that the girls are comfortable with, which in most cases ( >90%) is hindi songs. The focus is on the girls performance, including her expressions, nakhras, body language and the little mind games that ensue between mongers and bar girls. The ambience, enchanting/raunchy music, mesmerizing dance performances by girls in ghagra cholis and all this while sipping a drink of your choice - that is what a monger is looking for during a visit to a DB/OB. Most other mongers are not very receptive of a guy who seeks the limelight on the dance floor. From their perspective, it is a waste of their time.
Sure, a number of guys enjoy close-dancing, but it is usually on songs that allow the girl to put in her best performance. The intent is to have a good time together with your bar girlfriends.
I am not suggesting that you should change your modus operandi.
You do you.
All I am saying is that don't let the lack of invites from seniors/legends bother you.
You seem to be having a lot of fun doing it your way, so just keep having fun.
Cheers.