Chat Does my favourite MPA like me or not???

[OG_funguy]

I suspect the objective of OPs post is to find out if anyone has or thought they had discovered a unique relationship with a “good special girl” who is different from the herd. This “sweet heart” has emotionally touched him at his core.

It’s validation that he found a special “diamond in the rough”. Unless someone can tell him a horror story which hits too close to home , he will continue and explore the fantasy. The typical untrustworthy, low success probability and whore arguements don’t work.

It’s human nature - “this time is different.” It’s the thrill of the chase. He made up his mind before the post. It was purely a “safety check” if anyone out there experienced exactly his situation.

I have a personal story. But will not disclose it. The human mind and emotions does funny things to rationalize things.

Can you at least share the moral of your story and what you've learned from it?

 

[Shag]

Can you at least share the moral of your story and what you've learned from it?

The moral he is saying you will write one day because it matters not what people say, they do anyway.
I can give you pages of a mpa confession on how all the girls rip customers but it doesn't matter.
I told a member I can give 25000 reason why, but she won't listen to one. It is truer today than it was when I said it, nothing changes, the course has been set, the fat lady sang, and the person didn't hear.

 

[Deleted member 67013]

My friend save yourself the grief. This story will have an unhappy ending. Keep things in the spa, keep the fantasy alive, this will keep your marriage in tact. Most girls in this business are dealing with emotional baggage, are in it for the money or they are running from something or someone. It takes courage to make a decision to get into an industry where your safety is at risk every time a client walks into their door. Most of us are nice, but their are always the undesirables. I wish I could be positive for you, but I simply trying to help a fellow hobbyist. Keep it in the spa!

 

[Sybarite]

It’s human nature - “this time is different.” It’s the thrill of the chase. He made up his mind before the post. It was purely a “safety check” if anyone out there experienced exactly his situation.

Yes "this time it's different" really sums it up. The belief that he and his relationship are different, unique and special enough to escape the gravity of the various pitfalls most others are warning about here. Many of his replies are protesting why the experiences of others don't really apply to his particular situation...

But however exceptional he feels the relationship is, really how likely is it for this situation to end well? Can you achieve a long term bond with an MPA after the initial thrill is gone? A genuine relationship that is not predicated on money? Can you establish bona fide trust after connecting in a setting where multiple partners are the norm for both parties?

It's ironic that although the OP is perhaps blissfully optimistic everything could still ultimately work out, she is likely resisting because she is not similarly so credible to believe that an affair with a married man will have a happy ending.

 

[Massxprt]

Although unlikely with my sweetie, I'm not naive enough to think this can't happen. That's the problem, it's like a lose-lose situation.

Yeah, I thought unlikely until I got friends to test it. lose, lose? Buddy you're playing with a big part of your life for something that you don't know is genuine or a con.

Let someone find out for you. Trust me. I'm single with a lot less to lose but running a test prevented me from doing something really stupid.

 

[newtothis82]

I suspect the objective of OPs post is to find out if anyone has or thought they had discovered a unique relationship with a “good special girl” who is different from the herd. This “sweet heart” has emotionally touched him at his core.

It’s validation that he found a special “diamond in the rough”. Unless someone can tell him a horror story which hits too close to home , he will continue and explore the fantasy. The typical untrustworthy, low success probability and whore arguements don’t work.

It’s human nature - “this time is different.” It’s the thrill of the chase. He made up his mind before the post. It was purely a “safety check” if anyone out there experienced exactly his situation.

I have a personal story. But will not disclose it. The human mind and emotions does funny things to rationalize things.

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Yes "this time it's different" really sums it up. The belief that he and his relationship are different, unique and special enough to escape the gravity of the various pitfalls most others are warning about here. Many of his replies are protesting why the experiences of others don't really apply to his particular situation...

But however exceptional he feels the relationship is, really how likely is it for this situation to end well? Can you achieve a long term bond with an MPA after the initial thrill is gone? A genuine relationship that is not predicated on money? Can you establish bona fide trust after connecting in a setting where multiple partners are the norm for both parties?

It's ironic that although the OP is perhaps blissfully optimistic everything could still ultimately work out, she is likely resisting because she is not similarly so credible to believe that an affair with a married man will have a happy ending.

Some of these ladies at very good at their jobs. They will make you believe that you are special or the only one. Even though you know in your mind that this isn’t true, your mind tricks you because we all like to be treated in a special way. I enjoy going to see one lady, but I have gotten emotional attached in the past and know how tough it can be. I think the best way is to see multiple girls(which I haven’t done for years) and try to keep it from getting personal(which I have a hard time doing) keep this a fun hobby but don’t try to have a relationship unless your ok with being with a sex worker. This is no knock on the ladies, they are fantastic as a whole. As men we are just emotionally weak lol

 

[OG_funguy]

Yeah, I thought unlikely until I got friends to test it. lose, lose? Buddy you're playing with a big part of your life for something that you don't know is genuine or a con.

Let someone find out for you. Trust me. I'm single with a lot less to lose but running a test prevented me from doing something really stupid.

But what exactly did your tests reveal? That your honey did FS or BJ with others? I'm 100% positive that will not happen with my fave. However, it wouldn't even have to be FS or BJ to make me jealous. That's why I'm a bit reluctant to do this test. For example, even if she just kissed the guy, I would be pretty hurt. Also, the reason I don't want to ask a friend is in case I actually have a future with this girl. I don't want any of my friends to know she was in this business.

 

[Massxprt]

But what exactly did your tests reveal? That your honey did FS or BJ with others? I'm 100% positive that will not happen with my fave. However, it wouldn't even have to be FS or BJ to make me jealous. That's why I'm a bit reluctant to do this test. For example, even if she just kissed the guy, I would be pretty hurt. Also, the reason I don't want to ask a friend is in case I actually have a future with this girl. I don't want any of my friends to know she was in this business.

Tests revealed in one case that she did way more with a stranger than she did with me over a few years! She was faking me out so I thought She was a nice girl. Others revealed BBFS offers, but offers to do anything you want, phone numbers on the first visit. I'm still in progress but even If the get a regular modest service just what they say is astonishing. Might tell you, single no kids, been here 5 years lives alone. Another guy finds out she's still married, two kids, lives with another family.

Seriously dude. You need to know. Indeed 1 out of 10 will be telling the truth. But you don't know until you know.

I've had relationships outside a spa. One insisted on showing me her driver's license and divorce papers and asked me to do the same. She was honest but guess what? She was actually married, living with her husband, for the first 4 years I knew her when she said she was divorced with an ex husband in China! Marital status is a very common lie.

Get somebody who's not a close friend. Primetime with personal details to fact check.

 

[hangul99]

I've seen MPA's in all kinds of settings and I've yet to meet a truly honest one. Im fine with it because I'm not exactly truly honest with them.

Sure she might like you. She may also like a few other guys. If you plan on moving on, is it really all that important to know the truth? Its certainly not something to risk your family over.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[Homerun001]

I've seen MPA's in all kinds of settings and I've yet to meet a truly honest one. Im fine with it because I'm not exactly truly honest with them.

Sure she might like you. She may also like a few other guys. If you plan on moving on, is it really all that important to know the truth? Its certainly not something to risk your family over.

Just my 2 cents.

Well said..

 

[Hangdai]

This thread is bringing back memories of breaking the breaking the golden rule myself.

Rest assured, most normal nice guys on here want to feel special with a women, or another women, or many, many women.
It’s therapeutic to talk about it, even on here, and time heals all wounds....

Until you do it again, lol

 

[Homerun001]

This thread is bringing back memories of breaking the breaking the golden rule myself.

Rest assured, most normal nice guys on here want to feel special with a women, or another women, or many, many women.
It’s therapeutic to talk about it, even on here, and time heals all wounds....

Until you do it again, lol

Rules are made to be broken, lol..

 

[OG_funguy]

This thread is bringing back memories of breaking the breaking the golden rule myself.

Rest assured, most normal nice guys on here want to feel special with a women, or another women, or many, many women.
It’s therapeutic to talk about it, even on here, and time heals all wounds....

Until you do it again, lol

Are you going to do it??? That is, are you going to see your favorite honey again Only do it if you're sure you are over her emotionally...that is, keep it physical.

 

[Hangdai]

Are you going to do it??? That is, are you going to see your favorite honey again Only do it if you're sure you are over her emotionally...that is, keep it physical.

Nah, enough time has now passed that I’ve lost that loving feeling.

In a way, I’m glad I went cold turkey with her, allows me to remember her as one of the greatest ladies I’ve known, and not ending it with some kind of drama.

 

[OG_funguy]

Nah, enough time has now passed that I’ve lost that loving feeling.

In a way, I’m glad I went cold turkey with her, allows me to remember her as one of the greatest ladies I’ve known, and not ending it with some kind of drama.

Just curious, how long did it take before you got over her?

 

[Leviathan]

The feelings were one way. Not mutual. Like most dudes they get addicted to frequent access to paid sex and intimacy. And probably access to “Off menus” items to increase the booking velocity “you are so special” (wink, wink)

http://massageplanet.net/i-broke-the-golden-rule.t148531/

Not sure why he was so hot on the pear shaped village girl . Maybe she had high EQ like your sweety? LoL

Just curious, how long did it take before you got over her?

 

[newtothis82]

The best way to know if one of these girls gives a shit about u is to see if they actually show any interest in what is gon in in ur life . They love to talk about themselves, if your texting with one of these girls don’t text her for a few days and see if she texts u. And if she does text u to find what’s going on with u she may actually care. But most don’t. We have put them up on pedostals and they are believing their own hype...no matter anyone tells u in the heat of the moment , actions speak louder than words!

 

[OG_funguy]

The feelings were one way. Not mutual. Like most dudes they get addicted to frequent access to paid sex and intimacy. And probably access to “Off menus” items to increase the booking velocity “you are so special” (wink, wink)

http://massageplanet.net/i-broke-the-golden-rule.t148531/

Not sure why he was so hot on the pear shaped village girl . Maybe she had high EQ like your sweety? LoL

Interesting post for sure, and while there are similarities to my case, there are many differences as well...

First, the OP (and quite frankly many who have commented on my thread as well as his thread) are infatuated with their fave because of the sex (or at least the sex is clouding their judgement). I haven't even come close to that with my fave. My feelings are much deeper than physical (which is why it's so hard to get out of this - it's easy to find a physical replacement but not so easy to find an emotional one). Second, the OP said he found out the feelings weren't reciprocal. My fave insists she has strong feelings for me and not any other customer (you can call me naive but I believe her). Third, I know a lot about my fave outside of the MP. I have experienced her passion firsthand with her. Although it was just that one time, she's been open to it happening again. Bottom line, I know a lot of you are skeptical and say I'm being defensive (or naive) but for the most part (and I know there are exceptions), we're not comparing apples to apples. I'm aware of the type of girls many guys are referring to (again, this is not my first rodeo) and it's just different with my sweetie. She's in the industry but she's not an industry girl if you get what I'm saying. And please don't get me wrong, I'm definitely not suggesting my sweetie is the only one like this. But for many guys who don't visit a lot of low key semi-legits, ---where if I'm being honest, the women are not that hot---, they probably never met, as Leviathan put it, a plain jane simple village girl with honest intentions.

Anyways, despite all that I've said, I am still taking the advice of the majority and will slowly distance myself. I just can't do cold turkey like Hangdai as again, my connection is way beyond anything physical.

Btw, just curious is that hot pear shaped girl really the girl that hangdai was obsessed about? If yes, I can't blame him one bit. She's super hot!

 

[OG_funguy]

The best way to know if one of these girls gives a shit about u is to see if they actually show any interest in what is gon in in ur life . They love to talk about themselves, if your texting with one of these girls don’t text her for a few days and see if she texts u. And if she does text u to find what’s going on with u she may actually care. But most don’t. We have put them up on pedostals and they are believing their own hype...no matter anyone tells u in the heat of the moment , actions speak louder than words!

My fave never talks about herself. I need to pull things out of her. And yes, if I don't text her for a few days, she'll always send me a text, just asking how I'm doing or she'll send me a link to an interesting article or video. If it's been a really long time (like when I was on vacation), she might say she misses me but she has never asked when will I visit her at the spa (only exception being when she came back from China last year). On holidays such as Thanksgiving, Father's Day, etc., I will usually get a message first thing in the morning wishing me all the best.

 

[Leviathan]

No disrespect. But you are starting to repeat yourself. We get it. She is special. Your soul mate. It’s different this time. And not your first rodeo.

Humour me. Then what’s exactly your problem ?

Interesting post for sure, and while there are similarities to my case, there are many differences as well...

First, the OP (and quite frankly many who have commented on my thread as well as his thread) are infatuated with their fave because of the sex (or at least the sex is clouding their judgement). I haven't even come close to that with my fave. My feelings are much deeper than physical (which is why it's so hard to get out of this - it's easy to find a physical replacement but not so easy to find an emotional one). Second, the OP said he found out the feelings weren't reciprocal. My fave insists she has strong feelings for me and not any other customer (you can call me naive but I believe her). Third, I know a lot about my fave outside of the MP. I have experienced her passion firsthand with her. Although it was just that one time, she's been open to it happening again. Bottom line, I know a lot of you are skeptical and say I'm being defensive (or naive) but for the most part (and I know there are exceptions), we're not comparing apples to apples. I'm aware of the type of girls many guys are referring to (again, this is not my first rodeo) and it's just different with my sweetie. She's in the industry but she's not an industry girl if you get what I'm saying. And please don't get me wrong, I'm definitely not suggesting my sweetie is the only one like this. But for many guys who don't visit a lot of low key semi-legits, ---where if I'm being honest, the women are not that hot---, they probably never met, as Leviathan put it, a plain jane simple village girl with honest intentions.

Anyways, despite all that I've said, I am still taking the advice of the majority and will slowly distance myself. I just can't do cold turkey like Hangdai as again, my connection is way beyond anything physical.

Btw, just curious is that hot pear shaped girl really the girl that hangdai was obsessed about? If yes, I can't blame him one bit. She's super hot!