Fuck buddies

[Pompal 09.]

That is true. I never foresaw myself being thinner now than I was in high school. But I don't think I'll hold my breath while waiting for a hottie to come my way.

 

[Allan W]

So...when the day comes I need to dump one of these guys, any advice on the kindest way to do that?

 

[Kevin]

Be honest straightforward and direct. :

I'm sorry if this hurts you, but I no longer am attracted to you (love you) and I feel we should end our relationship.


That does the job, and allows the other person to move on as well as you.

Kindest??? I think so. better than drawing it out with innuendo, or by cheating on him until he finds out, or by any other less direct means.

 

[Sybil]

Why would you need to? Dump one I mean... just take him outta the rotation and replace him with a new more compatible FB...

There is no emotional attachment right?

And if you had signed agreements to begin with, no need for any further explanation. (Item #22...)

 

[Pompal 09.]

Um, I can't cheat on these guys. They know there's nothing exclusive going on.

And it's not a matter of no longer finding him attractive, he's just setting off some alarm bells in my head. Too many emails, a little too enthusiastic. I've already decided not to see him more than once a month or so, and if he doesn't calm down a little it will be best to not see him at all.

Now I have Tina Turner stuck in my head....what's love got to do, got to do with it? :tongue:

 

[Gbubb]

No emotional attachment, but that doesn't mean I'm inconsiderate.

Signed agreements, LOL...yes, my reluctance to leave a paper trail has come around to bite me on the ass. :

 

[Benjamin!]

Take the blame for the change in the relationship. Tell him you're starting to get a bit too invested and absolutely without a doubt don't want that. So it would be best if he found a better suited girl to play with.
I dunno though, never had a fuck buddy. I fuck other people's buddies. But that's not the same thing.

 

[Drog]

No, that seems risky. If he's getting in over his head, I don't want to encourage that by making him think I feel things I don't feel.

He's a very competitive guy, and I don't want to imply he's getting an edge over anyone else.

Above all else, I don't want to do anything that will lead anyone on.

 

[smithers]

That makes sense. duh....hmmmmm dunno what to suggest sorry. Ooh how about you tell him you're gonna change up the pace and go with only girls.

 

[love]

Hey now, that might work.

Thanks everyone for the input...I've never done this before, I'm trying to keep it simple. :???:

 

[canmad7]

as far as dumping him goes. Danolo is right. Honest is always the best policy. But there is no reason you can't be kind at the same time.

a little honesty, then a little flattery goes a long way. I use it in both minor hockey and in business. I call it the three P's..... Polite, Professional and Positive.

 

[Prince]

I've been sitting here for a long time trying to find the most polite, professional and positive way to say "I'm starting to suspect you might have stalker potential." :tongue:

 

[element_ice5]

Tell him you're being more selective and looking for someone different for your mix of men. Change will be good for both of you.

You don't need to explain that you feel he's too much of a handful and throwing off your juggling, that's not necessary.

 

[oweaponx]

I really can't give you advice about how to go about doing it [kindly dumping one of these guys].

However, if you adopt a new strategy, it should be easy:
- find a new FB, could even be one of us massageplanet dudes, hehe
- keep your rotation of FIVE for a month
- dump the guy who is the "lamest", use what ever criteria you wish
- do this every once in awhile, say every month or two
- repeat, and make it a process

You will always have the best set of FBs around, and you'll have no problems dumping anyone of them in the future.

Maybe not the same analogy, but what process do you think us hobbyists go through?

 

[DarkPirateRule]

I've actually been thinking I need to add a Five, but it won't be one of you guys. My problem with your plan is it has me dumping somebody every couple of months, and I have to constantly be looking for new ones. I was really hoping to just get the rotation settled and let it be for awhile.

It bothers me tremendously when people just disappear from my life, so I don't want to do that to someone else.

I can see the similarities with a hobbyist's situation, but at least with an sp there is a "business" element to the experience. This is purely personal, although strangely impersonal at the same time.

Oddball, LOL, don't they vote each other off the island on that show? ahahahaha, that thought is cracking me up. :tongue:

 

[LuYengpo]

Being more selective, LOLOL, um that seems a little insulting. Sorry, but I've raised my standards even higher and you no longer make the cut. Get the fuck out and don't come back. :666:

You'd all think I'm a terrible bitch if you knew how hard I'm laughing right now. :tongue:

 

[RobinsonHq]

I have a hard time thinking of you as a "terrible bitch."

Can't believe either word applies.

Won't attempt to provide any advice on this dilemma, since I'm convinced you're a much wiser person than I am.

Good luck, girl.

 

[Nycgirl92]

So a funny thing happened today. Awhile back, after I had a very busy week, HOF and I were laughing about what my neighbors must think. I said I hoped I didn't have Gladys Kravitz living across the way, hahaha, and it's been a running joke ever since.

For those much younger than myself, Gladys Kravitz was a character on Bewitched. She was the nosy neighbor, always watching to see what was going on...here's a clip, although it would be better if she went "Aaaaaaaaabner!!!" at the end.

[video=youtube;YVLJVydy8b8]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YVLJVydy8b8[/video]


So this afternoon Four was here, and the first thing he said when he came in was, "you know you have Gladys Kravitz living over there, right?" :shock: um, no I didn't realize I really do. oops. :bad:

 

[Scarlette Starr]

They are basically identical. The only reason why there is a "business" element for hobbyists, is that we pay. Where as, for you, you don't pay. It can be as personal or as impersonal as one wishes. Yet, you are debating, your situation is different.

What if we turned the tables:

Question: Would guys be asking about which "FB" to drop?

Answer: If I could find female FB's at my command, I would still be switching as often I as could.

Would you switch more frequently, if you were paying? Or keep repeating?

 

[LALA13]

Yes, but you're telling us this fellow isn't a fuck buddy up to your standards and isn't making the cut.

I'm curious, how are you going to tell him?