I can't believe an MPA said this about me ...

[tom_terrific73]

Don't worry about it TLM, happens to everyone everywhere and in the mp industry I believe it's more common than most would like to believe. I remember a conversation years ago with Shauna who use to work at the Silouette back in the Earl days. She told me that she cannot ever look at a guy who walks in for services, no matter how attractive he was as anything else but a client who wants to pay for her pleasuring him. 99% of the time it's all an act, accept it and have a blast.

You can flip the tables and the next time you walk in and she were to get up thinking you might choose her, just look at her with disgust in your eyes as if she just farted or something and choose someone else. She'll feel like you did and you'll feel great. Revenge is sweet.

PS, ever thought she was pissed at you for taking the other mpa instead? SOme ladies get really annoyed with not being chosen. Rosa@BP comes to mind who gets that nasty I HATE YOU look in her eye if she sees her clients with someone else.

 

[Kkbetch]

Give Allure up ..... Never !!!

I don't think the majority of ladies at Allure are stuck up princesses. Most of them are very down-to-earth, and quite easy to talk to ... sure, it could be acting, but who really cares if you have a good time in the end. It's all about the fantasy for me. There are a small percentage with whom I don't 'click' with or don't care about at all, but the rest have never given me attitude problems at all. So, it's not fair to judge them all negatively.

 

[Starla_C]

The moment the words left her lips and you heard them, everyone has lost something.

She lost any chance of further income from you, (foolish girl that she was)
I guess she never heard or didn't pay attention to the saying "If you have nothing good to say about someone, better to say nothing at all"
She also lost your self respect for her I would also guess as well.

Your lost, was the doubt that perhaps you really are not the nice guy you say you were. In essence a piece of yourself for the moment. I am sure if you really are this nice guy, you will work through it in the review in your mind, and satisfy yourself either way.

There is no winners here, only degrees of losers.

I would say, you handled it as best as is possible, by doing nothing. (you followed the saying, and took the high road). For that you were able to retain control, and did not come off looking and sounding poorly in other peoples eyes. It must have been hard to do, but you have the strength in knowing in your soul, you did the right thing.

In the west, it is a double edge sword, we are all entitled to our own opinion on many things including who we choose to like or not. That is the benefit.
The other side of the sword, we have no choice but to take responsiblity for that opinion and how it impacts others. A true cost and benefit analysis.

My suggestion is to move on to a spa or studio, that appreciates you both as a client and as a person.

It really is amazing how karma works.

 

[Leonardo]

They're all stuck up princesses who think that their hands are gods gifts to our penises. Give them a taste of their own medicine, don't give them anymore of your easy earned money.

 

[Heidi D]

That I can handle !!! (lol)

 

[BOOM shaka Lakaa]

Definitely. There was no conversation between the two girls until I entered scene. I waited in the lounge area for quite a while, and the receptionist/MPA was present there the whole time. Plus, if she was referring to someone else, something else would have been said, or some additional conversation may have taken place between the two. Plus, on my way out, when I saw her in the lounge area, there was this really awkward way she looked at me. As I mentioned in my previous post, its one of those gut-feeling things.



My sessions with her have gotten better with every repeat. When this incident occurred, I was there to see another MPA, and after that, I have not repeated, and I don't think I ever will.

 

[pictureperfect]

Yes I have had it happen to me. What do you do:

1) Go near the door and eavesdrop, when they are finished or after 20 seconds, open the door and tell them you heard everything they said and walk out of the place demanding a full refund.

2) As per #1, but stay and make her apologize. Ask her what have I done to you to make you feel this way? Make her feel bad on the inside with your questions. Have I not repeated with you? Have I disrespected you? Do you know how I feel?

3) Pretend like nothing happened. When your MPA enters the room for the massage, tell her that you are glad that you were available, and not the other MPA, that other MPA talks being everyones back and "says things" about the other MPAs that work there. This will make the MPA with you not trust that MPA, you know how some women are and if she has already talked back earlier than it strenthens your comments.

4) Go on massageplanet.net and post your experience with or without #1 ,2 or 3.

or ...

5) If you believe in yourself than you are a winner. Sticks and Stones !

VBB

 

[Unicornrider]

How do you know that it happened @Allure ?
Tlm also goes to other spas too.

 

[Gymnasticsferlife.]

I will second that.

And Indyfan,our money is definately hard earned.

 

[ernie]

We all know it was at Allure.

 

[chipinternational14]

TLM,

After 50 posts, it certainly seems to be a popular topic to try to figure out what was in her mind when she said that. There's no end to the theories or opinions here. You may be able to accept it now. You may have gotten over it and put it past you. You may be a better man for it - "I'm Ok, you're Ok."

But won't it nag you in the back of your mind... for like... forever? Just when you think you've forgotten it, something/someone will remind you of her. You'll pause on the street and stare out in the distance and just wonder "why"? Not that it matters to you anymore...right?

Curiousity killed the cat. It's like an itch that you can't seem to scratch.

So why not go back and just ask? Politely, of course. Not to improve yourself, and certainly not because you care what she thinks. Just because. Who knows, maybe it was just that piece of cabbage inbetween your teeth or maybe she just hates all men.

We could place bets on the reason.

"I gots ta know".

 

[i less than 3 u]

Tough hit brother.

You were there to see another MPA? Maybe she was upset, as someone mentioned earlier, that you booked with someone else.

 

[Squirtle]

I knew it...so which one of them was it???

 

[bhram]

Everytime I go to these places I'm under the assumption that they DON'T like me. These girls wouldn't want to do anything without paying money in the first place.

Call me selfish but I don't really care what they think of me as long as I'm satisfied with what I'm getting back. Despite this, I treat them with respect.

I don't believe you can ever pay anyone enough money to like you. They'll love your money but not you. Going to these places only gives us the illusion that these girls likes us, but unfortunately for you, this MPA shattered that illusion.

Sure you can make her apologize but she probably won't mean it anyways so what's the point?

 

[Suzie Homemaker]

I like the way you think. (heheh)



Never thought about that, but thanks for mentioning it, Rayden. On second thought, it seems like a good reason. But, I have chosen other MPA's in front of her, and the next time I saw her, the session was just as good. Maybe, I drove her to the edge on that day.

Now that you mention it, here's something similar that happened to me when I first started out in this hobby:

I used to visit this MPA frequently because she was great. But after a while, I decided to try someone else at the MP for some variety. The next time I went in, my regular was available along with a few other MPA's I did not try before. I chose a new girl because I found her highly attractive. At that moment, my regular gave me this weird look. I knew from her expression that she was disappointed. The session with the new girl was just unbelievable because she was just so young and open-minded. Anyway, the next time I went in to see my regular, there was quite a difference in her attitude. In the room, she asked me, "Why I had decided to skip her the last time around ?". My response was something like "To see how the other MPA's there compared to her". I told her she was still the best, but the session was not great as I'd come to expect from her. Two weeks later, I decided to check out my regular again. This time around, the session was even worse and she was just cold. At that point, I decided that I was done with her and it was time to move on. Afterwards, everytime I went to that MP, I never had a session with her, and she would always give me a cold stare. I continued to have some great sessions at that MP with the other girl's and after a few months, an MPA there told me that my previous regular was fired because she kept stealing customer's from the other girls.

 

[Susan]

I'm sure snooping around the door will definitely impress the manager and all the girls working.Only do this if you want to be banned from the spa.





Some of you guys really have to stop treating these girls as if they were girlfriends or friends of yours. Why play the role of immature drama queen by confronting her about not liking you? She's an MPA you pay to spend time with. As long as she doesn't rip you off during your sessions, she owes you nothing. By going ahead with your second option all you're doing is giving them a great story to tell their co-workers and more ammunition to make fun of you.

 

[Ellis Bontellis]

TLM,

It's suprising these days at how many people (in and out of the hobby) use the word
"hate" these days. I think that for lack of thought, and a poor vocabulary, many
people just insert the word "hate" into their statements. Not to excuse anyone, because she very may have well meant and intended to use that word, but if you know you have not done anything to cause such a strong statement to be used against you,
then you should know that the word may have come at a time when she was angry or
not thinking properly, or basically, a rude idiot.

Either way, it's no excuse. Some people have no decorum. They sputter the first
thought that comes into their mind with no concern as to how those words might make someone feel. These are people that will not even recall saying that a week later, as
statements like those are made twenty times a day.
"That gas station attendant is a loser"
"That woman on the phone is a lesbian b**ch"
"That neighbour across the hall is a retarded asshole"
Stuff like that, I hear so often, for inappropriate reasons, it's sickening.
Some people are so full of themselves,
and they need to put in their place more often.
But you should take comfort in the fact that you have never done anything to cause someone to use such a word about you.
Hopefully, as other posters said, it may have been directed at someone else, but I guess you'll never know.

 

[Pompal 09.]

there is...

 

[Jojoe]

I wouldnt say "all" for anything...BUT (not sepcifically Allure.. this is more industry wide) you guys would be surprised what alot of these girls opinions are of you....in some cases its so negitive you'd thnk they actually forgot what exactly there job was

and think about all the guys that go hounding for these girls on the regular...think it can feed the ego?. This is nothing against them specifically, people in general tend to belike this. It can definitely get to your head and alot of these girls think they are much "bigger" than they actually are.

 

[Brit]

Nope. I'm already done thinking about it. It wasn't a life-altering moment, so I have nothing to wonder about in the future.




I think it's too late for that now, and I don't see any point to it. A lot of MPA's are members on this board, and it's possible the MPA who said that about me is also a member here. I don't wanna jeopardize my identity, as it could ruin my further visits to that spa. Plus, if I confronted her now, she could deny that it happened, and some useless argument could follow.