I can't believe an MPA said this about me ...

[I love yanking your chain]

Hey The Ladies Man. For some reason I think Indyfan23 may be your doppelganger (sp?) It stands to reason that he sees the same MPA and she had mistaken you for him. In that case you can't blame a lady for good taste.

PS I'd love to put you on ignore list indy but the level of you stupidity is quite a freakish curiousity. (notice I did not say ignorant, because that would mean you could be smart but just don't have the right information. I think stupid is right up your ally.)

 

[TimothyRayburn]

When I was 18 I worked in a restaurant one summer. I worked as an assistant cashier (exciting yes, but what the hell) and was teamed with a girl who'd have been about 30. Every day we'd chat about movies and various other stuff.

About half way through the summer, I was called into the office by the restaurant manager who told me that so and so had put in a COMPLAINT, and didn't want to work with me anymore.

She never said ONE word to me about it beforehand or afterwards, but it was a good lesson to learn at a younger age.

1.) Not everybody is gonna be your friend.

2.) Not everybody is gonna like you.

3.) Most people ain't gonna say SHIT to your face.

4.) It's a waste of energy trying to figure out 1 - 3 above.

5.) Unfortunately ALL of the above are amplifed exponentially in MP's because money is involved, and you're PAYING for somebody's company.

Out of the 35 or so girls I've seen over the last year, ONE has become a dear and genuine friend.

Others I know "like me" but if $$$$ wasn't involved would they give me the time of day ?

Probably not.

 

[Parachromis]

All the MP's, SP's and strippers think of the paying clients as ::

Money Money Money
More money, More money, More money

that's it..............

you don't believe the stuff I hear all the time, as I work in the adult biz doing web sites....

Losers, assholes, etc......... the ladies are all in it for the money, the bottom line is they know they have to be very nice, sensual, erotic and sometimes even offer GFE, PFE type of service to make you one of their repeat clients to pay off their exotic cars, vacations and multiple homes/condos....

so if you guys think they REALLY LIKE YOU, think again!

To quote what a real MPA says ::

http://www.massageplanet.net.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=925237#post925237

this is the way they see you guys, so again enjoy the fantasy! and if you think it is reality, then you are on another planet...

Cheers!

 

[Judy M]

In indyfan23's defence, i'm the one who guessed it was Allure....and only because most of TLM's pots are about Allure

 

[dlyle76]

Rusty,

The only one that really mattered was #5 the rest were comic relief, we are not in high school anymore. Of course, #4 actually happened so that is why we are here, to support TLM.



Had the same scenario happen many times, if she wants to be that way there is nothing that you can do and just move on. If she wants to be bitter about it there is nothing you can do but enjoy the other ladies. Sooner or later maybe she will learn from the experience. Be the better person.

VBB

 

[Pompal 09.]

TLM,

I think you did the right thing in taking her shot and just walking away. I would have done the same. Had you confronted her, it would most definitely have ruined your session with the other mpa.

Also, good move in not revealing her identity here. Some other guys wouldn't have been able to resist... All class, baby!

 

[Denny S]

"I hate that Guy ... [door closes]...Goodtime, every session he insists on hugs and cuddles. Wish he can be like my regular The_Ladies_Man."

 

[ChristelW]

reality check guys.....they all hate us.....

 

[tjjwhole]

Ok

I've refrained from posting in this thread but I've just gotta reply to this post - and the rest of the "you're just a walking money bag to them" sort of replies.

Now I kinda have to walk a fine line here....because it is not my intention, in saying this, to imply the polar opposite of "they don't care about you" (ie. "this is a dating service - take your pick") is possible....

We all have clients that we're not particularly fond of. We're human. Yes, it is a business - and everyone shoud ideally be treated equally - but being human makes it impossible to "click" with everyone.

A girl who is professional will make the best of the situation - suck it up and do her best.

Sometimes - we vent. We warn one another about "bad" clients - or blow off steam about clients that tick us off...letting it out maintains our sanity - one must, however, be careful as to who is in earshot....

In the same way - seeing as we're all human - there are some clients who we genuinely enjoy spending time with.

I'll tell you honestly that I have frequently gushed about my favourites - about how nice a client is - how wonderful of a massage a particular guy gives - how funny so-and-so is.

Yes - they're still paying me for my time - no I am not looking to fall in love with any of them - but that doesn't take away from the fact that I consider some to be friends and many to be enjoyable to spend time with.

I just hate to read the constant negative posts implying that all MPAs are money-hungry leaches that don't give a shit about you. It's simply not true.

 

[JAMES P]

Its true that wer'e just customers, but at the same time if its a girl that you've repeated with for quite some time and you and her have a good repore (apparently), its human nature to get your feelings hurt if you hear something like that. Can't really blame TLM at all, kind of a tough blow.

Nothing you can control though, that's life.

 

[Pompal 09.]

You go, girl!

 

[italiangirl13111]

I wouldn't go that far. I'm sure some MPA's are genuinely happy when they see certain guys are there to see them.

 

[donya d]

Shit happens TLM,
Why worry just find another girl and move on. It's not like you have feelings for her .....or do you?
And what's with all this self-pitty shit? Get yourself together and move on. Rejection is just part of life hommes. Like today, I asked an elderly lady if she can hold my hand to cross the street, not only did she bagg me in the face with her purse but she took her heels off and chased me with it all over on Danforth (fuck'in embarassing).
And what Nikki said about not directing it to you. maybe she really was complaining 'bout a previous client or maybe it was the client who called to book an appointment w/ her and she was complaining 'bout him.
Anyways TLM, you have to believe half of what you see and half of what you hear.

 

[Pompal 09.]

I don't believe that.

All commercial transactions, including buying a carton of milk, are based upon money, money, money. Every job is based upon money. Would you go to work every day for eight or nine or ten hours if your employer didn't pay you?

That doesn't mean that you don't like your job or the people you work with or your customers and clientele. That doesn't mean that your friendly neighbourhood grocer doesn't like you more or less than the next person wandering in to buy a carton of fags.

Everybody who sees an MPA gives her money. Everbody. Does that mean that all MPAs see all customers in an identical way?

I don't believe so. MPAs are just as human as their clients are.

You can like someone without it getting very deep.

 

[Nikki C]

I actually agree with something Rusty said, and if I may quote him-

"Not everyone is gonna like you. You have to realize that when you go to an MPA it's their job to "pretend" to like you. Unfortunately, you overheard a moment of truth"

While we all agree this shit does happen, the line that they hate us all is crap.

We are indeed an paycheck for ALL the women of this industry.

Some of the nicest clients are some of the toughest as well. A guy grabbing is easy to deal with, wandering hands, bad smell, drunk etc are all efficently delt with.

But the nice guy, the guy that makes them feel special (and they believe it) blurs the line between work and life. I have had several women in the trade ask not to see me again. The excuses are lame and the hurt (both ways) is real.

It took me a long time to piece it all together but their lives go on without us 24hrs a day and the few minutes we spend with them is best kept professional, otherwise they would need to reexamine the other part of their lives and find it ...... well they need to fill in the blanks, not us.

To make them "feel" is not what they want. To be romanced is to cause them pain. To deal with them in a personal way is difficult for them to deal with.

Sheiks line about respect is spot on. They are workers performing a service. I say Thank You to the waiter who brings me my meal, and to the attendent who brings me my release. I also tip both if the service is performed well.

Then I go back out into the city and try to deal with the crazy fucked up bitches out there. One battle is enough for any man.

Dayger

 

[hippie6irl10]

That's funny. I should have read one more post before replying to the previous post.

I'm glad to read what you wrote. It's nice to know that I don't imagine everything I feel or believe.

 

[Sammy Girl]

I just cracked up when I saw the title heading. Don't get me wrong my sympathy goes out to you, I've also been a the similar situation.

http://www.massageplanet.net.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=884442#post884442

 

[Chewy B]

I know. So negative at times.

 

[chrisbrownismine]

Hey I once went back to the MP 5 minutes after I left because I forgot my hat. I walked into the lobby and could clearly hear the MPA talking from the next room. She was recounting the whole session like she had just been through the wringer. I took it personally at first, but eventually realized that it was just her. She doesnt know me. I was hygenic and polite. Her gripes were not my responsibility. There are plenty of parlors. This is like that.

 

[InSHANity <3]

Jesus,

I don't know whether to laugh or cry.