Chat Does my favourite MPA like me or not???

[Leviathan]

Exactly. Just continue to play along until you get some sex in adiition to the emotional fulfillment. Did anyone ask for promises of “commitment” ? Yet? Maybe she agrees to be a mistress and can live with that as a compromise. It’s generally accepted practice in Asia. If she is so conservative and naïve about sex maybe kL funguy can unleash the sexual beast within her! Her kitty could be a tight like a needle head with no sex and kids . LoL

We are not saying that you should dump her. Well not all of us. Just enjoy your time in the spa, even enjoy the sweet texts. Life is short, happiness is an illusion but that doesn't make it less real. Just don't go down the rabbit hole and ruin your life. You can have yoir cake and eat it too.

 

[OG_funguy]

We are not saying that you should dump her. Well not all of us. Just enjoy your time in the spa, even enjoy the sweet texts. Life is short, happiness is an illusion but that doesn't make it less real. Just don't go down the rabbit hole and ruin your life. You can have yoir cake and eat it too.

Thanks LazyBoy. I never mentioned it before but I really did appreciate your level-headed and non-judgemental advice along with a few others such as Pais007, Homerun001, L84dinner...I also appreciate the members who did not want to post in public but shared their personal stories with me via PM.

 

[spassky]

Some quick background. I've seen many MPAs in the past, almost all work at semi-legit places. I'm really drawn to one in particular and have very strong feelings for her (I've been seeing her almost every week for the last couple of years). By all accounts, she is very average looking and most guys here would not even look twice at her. She's Asian, probably mid to late 40's (she won't tell me her age) and very traditional. Despite the profession she's in, she's actually quite inexperienced sexually (yes, I know this is hard to believe). In any event, I'm not drawn to her because of anything sexual related (even her massage is not that good LOL). Anyways, I know a lot of you have experience from being in similar situations so based on the facts below, please let me know if you think she has genuine feelings for me or if she is playing me just so I continue to see her.

Reasons why she might actually like me:

• She has told me many times that she has strong feelings towards me (I'm not naive and can usually tell if someone is genuine or not).
• Our sessions are very intimate and include both passionate and tender kissing as well as cuddling. We also have pretty deep conversations.
• No surprise here but she tells me that we do things that she doesn't do with anyone else (in case you're wondering this doesn't include FS or even BJ).
• I know her real name and birthday (in case this actually matters).
• We've gone out once and she insisted on paying for the venue. At the venue, there were many people that know her. I mean the "real" her, they have no idea she is an MPA. We had a great time together and no, there was no fooling around at all.
• She does nice things for me, for example sometimes after our session has ended, we'll just sit around and she'll feed me fruit or something.
• We chat regularly via IM and sometimes live so yes, I do have her number (and she claims I'm the only customer that has it).
• I asked for and she sent me photos of her younger self. She grew up in China without digital cameras so these are actually pictures of pictures.
• I don't tip her anything above the norm; when I do try to tip her more, she refuses.
• I've offered to buy her small things and she refuses.

Reasons why she might just be playing with me:

• Mixed messages. She knows I'm falling for her (yes, I'm breaking the golden rule) and basically encourages me to see other MPAs but then she'll send me a message saying she's afraid to lose me. Then a week later, she'll say not to see other MPAs. The constant back & forth is confusing.
• This is the big one. Except for the one time we went out, she has not agreed to go out again (except for her birthday which is coming up). When I ask why, she can't really offer up a good reason and avoids the topic. Now, she does know I'm married so that could be it (she has said before that if I was single, she would definitely date me). But if this was the case, why did she even go out with me that one time. Also, I recently asked again if it was because I'm married and she said no.
• So basically the only time I see her is during our paid sessions.

Sorry for the long post but I really would like to get your guys thoughts on this. Thanks.

Jesus Fucking Christ. Dude, have you ever considered seeing a therapist.Wait a minute, you probably are one. How many mixed messages are in this post ? This lady is probably confused as hell about who you really are.

 

[spassky]

Yeah I've been there too. Not sharing personal info, pictures, or actual phone calls, but sometimes random flirty texts in between sessions.

Then when the mpas left the business total radio silence, as if I never existed. I would send a goodbye text thanking them for the good times and expressing best wishes for the future, but never a reply.

So now I consider that the norm when they leave the business, but I still send the "goodbye, thanks, and good luck" text as I think it's the right thing to do, and in a way it gives me closure regarding whatever fondness I felt for the lady.

Right on Bro

 

[Leviathan]

Status Update KL funguy? Leave your wife yet? LoL

Lord Kray

 

[qinging]

My bet is you failed the meet the friends test on your one date.

 

[OG_funguy]

Wow, how in the hell did this thread get resurrected???

I'll give the cole's note version. Like I alluded to in this thread, I did try to break things up with honey saying it was for the best. She didn't take it well, I gave in and we're still "together", if you want to call it that. When I started this thread, one of the things that confused me was because she only saw me outside the spa that one time. This doesn't appear to be a problem anymore and we've gone out a few times now with plans to do more stuff together. She's also the only MPA I've seen outside the spa. Anyways, she's been in China like forever now so who knows how things will pick up once she gets back.

My advice to most guys is still to avoid going out with an MPA though in certain circumstances, it can definitely work out (yes, I'm a believer in that).

 

[cupcrazy]

Wow, how in the hell did this thread get resurrected???

I'll give the cole's note version. Like I alluded to in this thread, I did try to break things up with honey saying it was for the best. She didn't take it well, I gave in and we're still "together", if you want to call it that. When I started this thread, one of the things that confused me was because she only saw me outside the spa that one time. This doesn't appear to be a problem anymore and we've gone out a few times now with plans to do more stuff together. She's also the only MPA I've seen outside the spa. Anyways, she's been in China like forever now so who knows how things will pick up once she gets back.

My advice to most guys is still to avoid going out with an MPA though in certain circumstances, it can definitely work out (yes, I'm a believer in that).

Definitely worthwhile read from page 1 to now.

When you put your foot down, you need to stick to it. Now she sees you have a weakness, she can use it at her advantage. She knows that you want her real bad. The court is now on her side.

Like others posted here, you already set your mind that she is the one. You are a bit defensive when one of us criticizes her.

I was in a similar situation as well. I dated one of my exes on 2 occasions. It was her who broke up with me in the first time around. She said that we don't speak a common language well. She speaks Mandarin and I barely speak Mandarin. we use English to communicate with each other. I am not saying all women from China are bad. It is case by case basis. Second time around, it was her who asked us to get back together. I was indecisive like you and quite skeptical at first. She wrote a bunch of crap that convinced me to give it a go the second time. Words can be deceiving. Oh yea, she kept on bombarded me with lots of text messages everyday saying how much she missed me and stuff. She also told me she is a Christian (I apologize if I offended anybody). Next thing I know, she got pregnant with a dude while we were dating. Granted, I have never met your chick so it is hard for me to tell what kind of person she is. If she truly loves you, why is she working in this industry?

I am sorry what kind of person would be willing to date with a guy/girl who already has a spouse?

I actually know a couple of MPA pretty well. I asked them if a man should date a MPA, they all said no. 1) MPA is too tempting. Once the girl is in the industry, it is hard to get out due to how much money they make in a short period of time. 2) Trust issue from both sides. it is really tough to believe you will be loyal to each other unless you both are ok with swing relationship.

 

[OG_funguy]

I hear what you're saying...couple of things:

1) I never said she loves me...in fact, I highly doubt that to be the case. We may have feelings for each other and enjoy each other's company but that's about it.
2) We're not really "dating", we haven't done sex or anything like that. I would say we both don't know where this is going.

Yes, I guess I can be a bit defensive with her but that's only because a lot of guys have it in their minds that all the girls in this business are a certain way and it's not always the case. Yes, I agree every girl has a choice and doesn't have to be in this business but sometimes it's easier said than done...I'll leave it at that. Totally agree with the trust thing which is why I don't advise guys to date MPAs unless they really don't care about them in the first place and just want the physical benefits.

 

[Leviathan]

Thanks for the update. So it’s friends still. Funny the wife would probably be more devasted with the emotional connection than you being caught for pure sex fling. LoL

Did you do the test “Tell her you got laid off due to workforce revitalization (too old and expensive) and you can’t see her at the Rub n Tug shop anymore. And you can only see her at the park bench and hold hands cause you love being with her” ?

Wow, how in the hell did this thread get resurrected???

I'll give the cole's note version. Like I alluded to in this thread, I did try to break things up with honey saying it was for the best. She didn't take it well, I gave in and we're still "together", if you want to call it that. When I started this thread, one of the things that confused me was because she only saw me outside the spa that one time. This doesn't appear to be a problem anymore and we've gone out a few times now with plans to do more stuff together. She's also the only MPA I've seen outside the spa. Anyways, she's been in China like forever now so who knows how things will pick up once she gets back.

My advice to most guys is still to avoid going out with an MPA though in certain circumstances, it can definitely work out (yes, I'm a believer in that).

 

[OG_funguy]

Not yet...but I have hinted to her that I may not be working for too much longer (which is somewhat true). She's always said that whether I stop going to the MP or if she gets out of this business, it wouldn't stop us from doing stuff together. But I guess the proof is in the pudding...ping me in a year for another update LOL.

 

[luvnewpussy]

Unlike a massage, an affair with an MPA never has a happy ending. You are married - work on your marriage. She is a sex service provider. You are just another man on her list. That's how it is.

Exactly..you are in affair territory. You will lose all of what you have built for some chick who massages your cock. Reality check ..your not the only guy ..she knows it's not going to work ..your the one confused ..your way too emotionally attached to her.
You sound too weak to move on because your caught up..i would just try to fuck her and get it over with it ..once you fuck her ..the dynamic will change and u will force the relationship to change .
It's at a standstill so there your lost in your emotions .

 

[cupcrazy]

You're probably right about the dynamic changing if I did end up having sex with her...

that depends if you pay her for it or not

 

[luvnewpussy]

that depends if you pay her for it or not

It will never work out ..seems like your family life is less important if your willing to risk it all .. Really if u just want an affair find a regular girl ..you are digging a hole for yourself here. In 2 years you will be divorced ...paying alimony..in a 1 bed room apartment and she will retire in China. Your not in reality my friend.

 

[Leviathan]

Good grief. KL hasn’t even fucked her yet. So easy with the alarm bells. LoL

It will never work out ..seems like your family life is less important if your willing to risk it all .. Really if u just want an affair find a regular girl ..you are digging a hole for yourself here. In 2 years you will be divorced ...paying alimony..in a 1 bed room apartment and she will retire in China. Your not in reality my friend.

 

[qinging]

Carry on kl_funguy.....less fun ahead however

 

[krayjee]

Some quick background. I've seen many MPAs in the past, almost all work at semi-legit places. I'm really drawn to one in particular and have very strong feelings for her (I've been seeing her almost every week for the last couple of years). By all accounts, she is very average looking and most guys here would not even look twice at her. She's Asian, probably mid to late 40's (she won't tell me her age) and very traditional. Despite the profession she's in, she's actually quite inexperienced sexually (yes, I know this is hard to believe). In any event, I'm not drawn to her because of anything sexual related (even her massage is not that good LOL). Anyways, I know a lot of you have experience from being in similar situations so based on the facts below, please let me know if you think she has genuine feelings for me or if she is playing me just so I continue to see her.

Reasons why she might actually like me:

• She has told me many times that she has strong feelings towards me (I'm not naive and can usually tell if someone is genuine or not).
• Our sessions are very intimate and include both passionate and tender kissing as well as cuddling. We also have pretty deep conversations.
• No surprise here but she tells me that we do things that she doesn't do with anyone else (in case you're wondering this doesn't include FS or even BJ).
• I know her real name and birthday (in case this actually matters).
• We've gone out once and she insisted on paying for the venue. At the venue, there were many people that know her. I mean the "real" her, they have no idea she is an MPA. We had a great time together and no, there was no fooling around at all.
• She does nice things for me, for example sometimes after our session has ended, we'll just sit around and she'll feed me fruit or something.
• We chat regularly via IM and sometimes live so yes, I do have her number (and she claims I'm the only customer that has it).
• I asked for and she sent me photos of her younger self. She grew up in China without digital cameras so these are actually pictures of pictures.
• I don't tip her anything above the norm; when I do try to tip her more, she refuses.
• I've offered to buy her small things and she refuses.

Reasons why she might just be playing with me:

• Mixed messages. She knows I'm falling for her (yes, I'm breaking the golden rule) and basically encourages me to see other MPAs but then she'll send me a message saying she's afraid to lose me. Then a week later, she'll say not to see other MPAs. The constant back & forth is confusing.
• This is the big one. Except for the one time we went out, she has not agreed to go out again (except for her birthday which is coming up). When I ask why, she can't really offer up a good reason and avoids the topic. Now, she does know I'm married so that could be it (she has said before that if I was single, she would definitely date me). But if this was the case, why did she even go out with me that one time. Also, I recently asked again if it was because I'm married and she said no.
• So basically the only time I see her is during our paid sessions.

Sorry for the long post but I really would like to get your guys thoughts on this. Thanks.

kl_funguy, I have been in this hobby long enough and I have dated so many MPAs through out my years. Some singles, some married, some with grown up kids, some with both husbands, kids and 2-3 boyfriends at the same time. Girls in this industry are all about business. They all are very good players and I myself had learnt it a hard way.

I am pretty sure you have been played. I can guaranty she is married and have kids . She is afraid to be seen with you in public tells me clearly she is hiding something from you. If she really likes you and loves you, you can tell very easily by the way she communicates with you. If she is really into you, she will answer your calls and texts promptly and she will also be willing to see you any time you wish. Otherwise she was just playing with you to keep you as her regular and her solid regular source of income. Don't be surprised if you find out she also have 2-3 guys like you on the side.

Now I am working for a few spas and dealing with all the spa girls almost every day, hanging out with them on and off the clock and listen to their stories almost every day. Some girls are so good at playing and so mean to a point I have to warn some guys to be careful who they are dealing with.. Sometimes I have to tell the girls to play fair and not to take too much advantage of the vulnerable suckers. Some girls are ok but some told me blunt they are not forcing them to do those things. They are just stupid and are willing victims. Sometimes it was quite true. Some idiot still refused to believe what they heard from me.
The best way to have a relationship with a MPA is as a FWB (friends with benefit) just for fun. No strings, no attachments and no drama. Of course only if you are lucky enough to find the right one.

 

[qinging]

Yes Krayjee has seen it all and spread it all.

 

[SaggyBallz]

Yes Krayjee has seen it all and spread it all.View attachment 95055

Jesus...wtf..who has “the disease”?!?!?

 

[qinging]

Jesus...wtf..who has “the disease”?!?!?

Yes unfortunately the Krayjee threat can't be swept under the carpet.